Not sure how to feel anymore

Having a therapist with ADHD is well worth the scheduling mishaps, in my experience. My ADHD therapist generally gave me the same advice as everyone else at its core, but broke it down for me in ways that made it actually useful.

"It only works once, sadly."
Me, being 45 minutes late for my dentist after they caught me out by scheduling the prior visit to accommodate my lateness ☹️

I must have a different kind of ADHD because I need to be an hour or two early for my appointments, or I’m constantly stressed I’ll forget them.
- Is there a kind of adhd for precisely calculating exactly how long it will take to get ready and travel to wherever and staying in bed until the last minute, only to realize you've misplaced your wallet and keys and end up 20 minutes late anyway?
  
  No idea if it will help, as I am going to try it too, but we may need to put our keys and wallet in the good place before going to sleep when we have important things the next day. The only way I ever get to the airport on time is to:
  Pack early (try...)
  Put all electronics in a pile on or near luggage/backpack, charging
  Put all the other extremely important shit on top as well. Keys, wallet, etc.
  Lay out my clothes for tomorrow, so I just have to wake up and put them on.
  Stress about missing my flight and sleep like shit.
  The only other thing that helps me is Tile, so I can at least narrow down which room my keys or wallet is in. The little speaker can get kind of damaged on the wallet one, but the BT is fine.
  
  I dunno, but there's certainly one for going, everything's ready but I don't need to leave for 20min, hmm, 20min, I'll just do something, ohnoohnoohno I'm late!
  
  I learned at a young age to get a small bowl or drawer or box for my desk and always always always put the pocket things in that same bowl/drawer/box forever
- Same kind of ADHD, different coping mechanism, I think.
  
  Yeah, I'm also more on the time blindness overcompensation club.
  If I have no time fixed, minutes stretch into hours.
  If I have some fixed time scheduled, I live by the clock and will rather be way too early than a little to late.
  I have to trick my non ADHD wife to be on time, because if there's a schedule, I'm the master time keeper.
  Being late is just way more stressful and I hate rushing and the anxiety of being too late to the train or some doctor or whatever.
  My coping mechanism is to have the anxiety way earlier than other people. Everyone believes I'm amazingly organized.
- This is me. :( I am so panicked by that 1100 hours appointment that I can't do anything for the entire morning, and ABSOLUTELY MUST leave with time to spare for traffic, getting pulled over, and maybe an unfortunate incident with the neighbor's cat, just in case!
  I'm bad with the 'routine' stuff, where I once had to call in sick to work because I couldn't find my keys, or I am on the computer, typing a reply on lemmy, when I have five minutes until I need to leave for work... speaking of... glances at clock
  
  hey, that's me too! the same with losing the entire morning for stuff in the afternoon, being overly on time for first time appointments, but once it becomes routine, i am so late, including the "i post 5 mins before i have to go, and i'm not even dressed or showered yet".
  The comment i made before this one was one of those comments. Glad to be home again.
  I really should get diagnosed (in my 40s) and medicated if possible, but i've got so much medical stuff going on already, i really don't want to add to it.
- Ah yes, the oven mitts

Over 5 months of near weekly appointments, I've managed to show up early twice.
How early? About 24 hours. Late to everything else all the time. Granted this is the best quality of care I've ever experienced and don't want to fuck it up. Turns out that'll motivate me!

My neurologist started me on some meds and expects me to go back every moth to get a new prescription. That's not happening. It's the second time I've run out of meds for mor than a month.
Also she says that ADHD can be treated with a 6 months treatment (which i interpet as "it can be cured"), which I'm not sure it can and says that Ritalin is for children while someone I know tells me that's not true
- Well that's a massive red flag. You should definitely get a second opinion.
- I agree with your acquaintance - your neurologist does not give sound advice.
- that Ritalin is for children
  in some countries this was the case until a couple years ago (might still be the case in some places).
  The official use case was only for children. Doctors could of course perscribe it to adults, but that was not "on label".
  It might be that it's either still the case wherever you are, or that the doctor has outdated information

- I'm seeing Belize and Haiti! Okay, what's the surprising correlation?
  
  Tropical beaches cause ADHD
  
  we should all go back to our exotic roots on a beach, duh
- I don't like you
- maybe because adhd means our brains are wired differently, yk neurodivergent, and you know what brains are responsible for? that's right, everything (identity is covered by everything)