I’m in a relationship with a man 25 years older than me - AMA
Two days ago, I did an AMA about my current life situation, and I really enjoyed it. I find these super fun for some reason, so I’m back with another one! Same request as last time: please, no judgment or unkind replies. Thank you! 🤍
Any plans to have children?
Do you have plans for how to deal with his body aging and becoming infirm quite a long time before yours?
I’ll take care of him the same way he has taken - and continues to take - care of me. I love him. But I also believe that prevention is better than treatment, and he works hard to maintain both his body and mind.
I'll start with the obvious: how old are you? The dynamic of 18 and 43 is much different than 35 and 60.
18 since February.
I was afraid you'd say that.
I left home at 17 and shacked up with a 38 year old man. I also did it for the security. Home life wasn't stable and how was I supposed to make it on my own? Worst decision of my life. He was a very subtle manipulator. It took years of therapy to undo what that relationship did.
Now that I'm 35, I'm not interested in close friendship or romantic/sexual relationships with men or women in their late teens to even mid twenties. That's not meant as an insult to that demographic, there's nothing wrong with them. A person's brain isn't finished developing until well into their twenties, and someone with only a handful of years of adult life experience has very little in common with an older adult. It's like if you were to bed down with a 14 year old. There's nothing wrong with being 14, they're just in a profoundly different stage of their life.
I fully expect you to ignore this. 18 year old me would have as she thought she had it all figured out, so 22+ year old me paid the price. I'm just hoping it plants that seed of doubt so, when you wonder what a 43 year old man actually sees in an 18 year old, and if you start to notice how he might be manipulating you to stay dependent on him (hopefully not the case for you too), you decide to run sooner than I did.
Edit: I saw he's fully "taking care of you". If you stay in this relationship, make sure you can take care of yourself if you get out. Learn a trade, go to college, anything so you're not trapped if you find you need to leave
How and when did you meet this guy?
I hope this is fake and a "joke"
Get away as fast as you can. ???
If you aren't trolling please get out of that situation
Now I see why you requested no negative comments. It's about all you would get without that stipulation.
But hey the reality is this: if you are happy and no one is being manipulated, then I'm fine with it. Too few people enjoy the moment, when it is all we have, and no one can say what makes another person's life feel right.
It's easy to judge, but far harder to understand.
As another caring human though, I would also expect everyone who cares for you to be worrying for you quite strongly each time they think of your relationship, and that will be hard on their psyche, and one way or another, that will be expressed by them.
The time for open communication is now if you want it expressed in a healthy manner later.
Just things to be aware of, it's easy to get stuck in our comfortable bubble.
Run.
Why is garlic bread so fucking good?
Garlic is good, and bread is good too - so naturally, good + good = very good. Simple math.
Don't discount the butter or oil either
I could literally eat it for every meal.
How did this come to be?
We met in June 2023 through my best friend - he’s her boyfriend’s widowed uncle. I liked him, and he liked me. At the time, my biggest goal was to leave home, and after spending about two months together, I decided to move in with him in August.