oh boo fucking hoo. keep pointing fingers at the 'other guy'. neither side takes responsibility for the shit shows they produce. stop voting for the big two.
We call this the false equivalence fallacy. If Bob tripped me, and Mike murdered my wife, kids, and 8 EMTs, then Bob and Mike are not just as bad because "they both did bad things".
Of course not, but that's not what Bob and Mike did. Bob and Mike are nearly indistinguishable in terms of military spending, conducting wars abroad, allowing our economy to be plundered, and generally doing jack shit to help ordinary American citizens who are suffering worse and worse as a result.
So yeah. Every single one of them did very bad things, and any differences you can point out are not nearly substantial enough to make any of them worth defending.
Okay, end metaphor since you're not incapable of logic, you're just ill-informed.
Democrats have always supported net neutrality. Republicans have not. Democrats have worked to invent ways of protecting the climate. Republicans actively oppose it. Democrats support bodily autonomy, and letting pregnant women do whatever they'd like to their own bodies. While base abortion rights are a debate, Republicans have blocked abortions even to mothers that required them to survive a miscarriage. Democrats have shown support for BLM, an organization that forces attention on racial inequity in the justice system. And, they're in support of student loan forgiveness - among other programs to further American education, a necessity to keep our job force competent (and help people make better decisions in elections).
So no, I do not agree they're the same, even when the individual things you listed may be true.