What I think lemmy needs 1 it needs to feel like a website to the user 2 single login you join and automatically get put on a server that isn't overloaded 3 search you need to be able to search for any sub you want right on the app 4 this is something that a user wont see but is important for them a unified system of raising money for instances
join-lemmy or join-mastodon should probably just pick a server for you with 1000-15000 users. There can be an advanced option to select a server, but that shouldn't be the default workflow.
I disagree this is the single biggest reason people refuse to join the fediverse not even just lemmy but mastodon as well people should have the option to manually pick but default should be that it picks