Does anyone feel like an actual adult?
Does anyone feel like an actual adult?
Even with a good career and all the "adult milestones" I don't feel like an actual adult. I feel like I'm pretending to know what I'm doing. Anyone else experience this?
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I started feeling like an adult when I was 28. Throughout my 20s the thought came up every so often but I distinctly remember the first time it happened and I really did feel like an adult was when I was 28.
I only feel like an adult when I am financially stable. A couple times in my 20s I thought I had everything starting to be in order and I had that maybe I am adulting properly. Then depression kicks in and I manage to fuck it all up. This last round when everything was falling in place and was close to stable for 3 years and then the company I was working for laid off our entire department of ~90 people. Outsourced it. Financial stability crumbled and slowly my mental state also has dwindled. The only reminder that your an adult is that the roof over your head isn't going to be there if you fuck up. Skipping days of eating aren't an "oops I guess I didn't realize I hadn't eaten today" but rather a necessity. Brings you back to memories of eating 3-4 days in college to be able to afford the textbooks because the student loans you took out didn't cover those.
Adulting sometimes is knowing you have done everything you thought was right, and you may likely fail anyways. With the knowledge that there isn't time to start over. Throw in a side of the family members who may have cared have passed away and you need to be the one stepping into those roles. Lots of guilt