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As a father of 4 boys, I find it sad that young men want a world on fire. There are a lot of good male role model out there, let's promote them, seems that would be more conducive.
I never had a good male role model growing up, so instead of being an asshole like my dad or anyone from church I just transitioned
Which is fine too.
Wouldn't wish it on my kids because of how society is. But happiness matters more.
This was a half joke, the lack of male role model being solved by transitioning is kinda incidental, though it may have played a role because I didn't identify with what I observed as the "male role"
It's an interesting idea. Personally, I like to explore what part of my behavior is reinforced gender performance and which part feels more like me.
As someone who had a father of 4 - just tell them people are people. No one is above reproach. They all make mistakes, and a lot of them try to do as much good as they can. They are going to learn that sooner, or later.
There's no worst thing that finding out your hero is a shit heel. But if you never had a role model - you can't get that disappointment.
You just try your best to be your best. Because if everyone did that - the world would be a better place.
That’s how I’ve always operated. Can’t be let down if you don’t look up in the first place. I’m doing pretty well right now without having had a role model (I’ve had mentors but I feel there’s a difference), but I’ll never lie and say the road I’ve taken has been free of potholes and detours.
I’m writing this little fictional world for a set of stories, and had the idea to change over one of my “strong female role model explorer” characters to a guy; while keeping a number of less masculine traits. I just felt like it’s important for people to have more fictional characters in their demographic they want to look up to and imitate.
Be that role model.
Sure, up to a certain age where they develop their own interests you don't share. Which is okay, I'm not there to hold their hand forever. Just long enough...
Being a role model is more about being a good moral guide. It doesn't matter if you share their interests.
What I meant is that there should be people in their life who can be both.