What is the biggest action that got you to where you are now?
What is the biggest action that got you to where you are now?
This isn't some achievement but I'd say my action was to move out of Lithuania. I was bedridden due to pollen, so sensitive that I spent the summers on a ventilator because of it. Me and my parents moved out to Norway, and the pollen allergies subsided.
Saying yes when my neighbor asked me if I wanted to go out to party with him and the girl next to him I hadn’t seen before.
Because of her I said yes (although I wasn’t in the mood to go out at that moment), and now she’s my wife, we have kids, I moved to where she lived, became self-employed, and we bought a house together.
Just because of that yes. Try to say yes to invites, people.
Get rid of toxic people, no matter if they're family or not.
Get a job that's low stress instead of high income.This! Cutting my toxic mother out of my life and moving a state away did WONDERS for my mental health.
i went back to school. just got my degree about 2 months ago. heading back got me the job i have now.
Believing in myself. When I was in high school, I decided that I wanted to go to an Ivy League college. I figured I was just as capable as anyone else that went to those schools, I just needed to get there. But my guidance counselor refused to write the recommendation letter bc nobody at my school had ever gone to an out-of-state college before. I had to have a parent-teacher conference to get the letter approved. Fast forward to now, I’ve since finished college at an Ivy and now ~5% of each graduating class from my high school attends and Ivy for college. Turns out we were more than capable of doing it; someone just had to do it first.
When I was in the first grade I was bullied for being weird. As a "fuck you" to my bullies, I embraced it and leaned into my natural weirdness. It took the sting out of their words. Eventually I started telling them "It's better than being plain, boring, and normal".
This mindset is 100% responsible for where I've ended up. I stopped thinking being weird is superior a long time ago, but I still have an enjoyment of my own oddities as pretentious as that sounds. I think this path I've taken is a very good one.
Wow, that’s a huge change!
Do you also take allergy medication or was the move all you needed for the symptoms to subside?
The move fixed my allergies. I don't know how but they're completely gone. I occasionally visit my grandparents without any issues
I attended a programming bootcamp. Almost tripled my income in 6 months.
You know, your question got me thinking, and it honestly feels like I’m pretty much nowhere at this point. I wonder what this kind of biggest action thing it is going to be for me.
Washing dishes during a Friday night rush at the world's shittiest Little Caesar's pizza.
I was tanking my grades in my freshman year of college out of... Lack of focus? I dunno. But I realized this was going to be my life if I didn't get it together. I lost my full ride scholarship that semester, but, I recovered, even excelled and graduated, and had a career.
During my first internship in my second year of studies, I decided to stick with the company and move to part time studying.
I essentially got a devops education in parallel with my software engineering education, which I feel has set me up for life for employment. Also helps that I really enjoy the work I do.