This is me too. That and there is this stupid goddamn idea of "caring too much." Like responding quickly is a bad thing because it makes you seem desperate... Ffs I wouldn't be messaging you if I wasn't interested, but now I need to wait and play a stupid mind game so I don't lose the persons interest because they might assume that stupid thing about quick replies being a bad thing...
There's a Deathbulge comic for that, I just can't find it. Basically a dude taking forever to reply to get "cool points" and accidentally replying immediately a second time, immediately losing all his cool