It's weird. My instance is hosted on a VPS in New Jersey, but shows here in Mexico. The company I rent the server from doesn't have a data center in Mexico
small instances are the best, remember it will take some time before new subscriptions start flowing into the server esp if you are the first person to sub to a remote community.
Yeah I'm still trying to figure that stuff out. I can find my username from lemm.ee but not the community that I made there. Same with kbin, I can find my lemm.ee user but can't find the community for the life of me.
step one, make sure you are searching for the community with the right format
!<communityname>@<server>
you might need to try a couple times and wait a min, its slow with no ui indicator that its still working
if that fails, get a link to a post from the community (be sure to use the community's home instance) and search for that. Once again it may take a few attempts and some waiting. If it fails, just try again tmw, sync things.