Your journey with Lemmy: When and why did you join? When did you leave and come back? Are you finally settled?
My journey with Lemmy started in 2022 out of interest in the fediverse and paranoia around how much control social media companies have, and how little choice common people are left with over the Internet.
Lemmy was much smaller back then. I really wanted it go get bigger, and tried to contribute to it. But it was small enough to be unsatisfying, so I would go back and forth between lemmy and Reddit.
After the Reddit fiasco, I shifted more and more towards lemmy and less towards Reddit. I finally abandoned Reddit when third party apps broke. I only go there for specific questions in communities that aren't active on lemmy.
The thing that I dislike about lemmy is that we all share a boat (instance) with a lot of other people. If the boat owners drill holes into the boat (defederate with instances) we all sink.
I'd like to settle on a platform that scales better and gives more reliability (no dependence on instance admins).
Servers are fine, but your identity shouldn't depend on a single one. On Nostr for example, servers are just there to relay the content to other peers. The servers are interchangeable and you don't depend on any of them.
Sadly, Nostr doesn't have good content and is kinda overrun by crypto bros.
Give it time. I know there was a lot of discussion about account backup and migration a while back. There is only one full time Lemmy dev, so who knows what the program will look like in a few more years and with a few more dollars for code.