Asklemmy
- Is Lemmy your "main social media app"? If not, which one is it?
I have fully transitioned to using Lemmy and Mastodon right when third party apps weren't allowed on Spez's place anymore, so I don't know how it is over there anymore.
What do you use? Are you still switching between the two, essentially dualbooting?
What other social media do you use? How do you feel about Fediverse social media platforms in general?
(I'm sorry if I'm the 100th person to ask this on here...)
- What's a good joke present to get your SO for Christmas?
My dad always likes to tell us about the Christmas when my uncle bought my aunt a tin opener (a good one!) for Christmas, she was apparently rather unimpressed but the story has given years worth of good laughs.
I also remember when my dad bought a holiday in New York for my mum and himself for Christmas, but the tickets were in a small envelope right at the bottom of a HUGE box filled with packing peanuts.
What terrible/joke presents can you think of that would be a good laugh on Christmas day?
- Is there any hope for me?
I'm starting to think that my life is over and I don't want to live anymore. As of writing this I am a 23 year old woman with no qualifications or education. I have learning disabilities and my IQ is just 76. I struggle with things like talking, maths and spelling and I can't find a job.
When I was a kid I knew I was different. Things that were easy for the other kids to do took me ages to learn. Kids used to make fun of me because of the way I talked and in general I could fit in. As I got older my learning disabilities become more noticeable. I was diagnosed with ADHD and low intelligence and therefore struggled academically but my dad refused to put me in a special education program because he thought it would be an embarrassment. School was very hard for me. I would work my ass off just to get C's and B's and my father was very abusive. He would expect me to do well in school and if I didn't he would beat and punish me. I had to repeat the 7th and 9th grade but I eventually graduated but very poor grades and no qualifications. When I was around 15-18 started to do drugs like weed and alcohol just to cope.
I left my parents house when I was 19 and went to live with a friend. I have very little money as I'm addicted to drugs and my lack of education makes getting a job practically impossible. I don't see my life going anywhere and when I'm not on drugs I'm miserable. My brothers and sisters have done so much better then me and it makes me so jealous, angry and ashamed. I know this may sound cringe but I honestly can't do this anymore.
- Why do People Choose BlueSky Over Mastodon?
I's heard news that BlueSky has been growing a lot as Xitter becomes worse and worse, but why do people seem to prefer BlueSky? This confuses me because BlueSky does not have any federalization technologies built into it, meaning it's just another centralized platform, and thus vulnerable to the same things that make modern social media so horrible.
And so, in the hopes of having a better understanding, I've come here to ask what problems Mastodon has that keep people from migrating to it and what is BlueSky doing so right that it attracts so many people.
This question is directed to those who have used all three platforms, although others are free to put out their own thoughts.
(To be clear, I've never used Xitter, BlueSky or Mastodon. I'm asking specifically so that I don't have to make an account on each to find out by myself.)
- What's your favorite ice cream/gelato flavor?
I want to know. I don't care if it's a fancy artisan gelato or just your regular soft serve at McBurger's. Do you have a flavor you like? Perhaps a brand? Perhaps you make it yourself? If you're getting scoops, do you have a preference for which flavor goes on top of the other? Do you like wafer cones or are you a cup person? Any toppings?
I always prefer gelato, and some of my all time favorites are sabayon, mascarpone, anything with rum/berries/sultanas, and choc chip mint. I prefer cup to cone. When I was a kid I used to love the soft serve cones but as I grew up they started making me sick so I avoid them now.
- Where does porn addiction awareness stop and conservatism begins?
Pretty straightforward: where does the awareness that porn wrecks your mind and sexuality and where does simply conservatism towards sexuality begins (even in cases akin to bolshe morality)?
- Where/How do you find random new information that maybe useful?
Both about a new topic or a topic that you already are interested in.
There are TIL communities here on lemmy and they are good, but mostly not about using the info to do things.
Any websites, rss feeds, youtube channels, lemmy(or other site) communities etc. that you subscribe to for that? And going beyond online stuff, any books or publications or groups that you like?
- What are the "AK-47" of items? (cheap, durable, just works)
This is not a conversation about guns. This is a conversation about items that have withstood abuse that are near unbreakable.
Some items I have heard referenced as AK47 of:
Gerber MP600: It's a multi tool
Old Thinkpad Laptops
Mag lights
Toyota Hilux
- Best LIVE online courses for Python/NLP/Data Science with actual instructors?
I'm in the process of transitioning from my current career in teaching to the NLP career via the Python path and while I've been learning on my own for about three months now I've found it a bit too slow and wanted to see if there's a good course (described in the title) that's really worth the money and time investment and would make things easier for someone like me?
One important requirement is that (for this purpose) I've no interest in exclusively self-study courses where you are supposed to watch videos or read text on your own without ever meeting anyone in real-time.
- Do you think things will get better?
I don't mean better for you or me but better in general. Do you believe our species will ever reach some form of enlightenment or will we destroy ourselves?
- What are some types of websites which are uncommon on the English-speaking web?
The English-speaking web has many different types of websites. For social media, there are link aggregators (Lemmy/Mbin/etc., reddit), microblog sites (Mastodon/Pleroma/etc., Xitter), forums like BBS boards, and more.
This post talks about Misskey and how it diverges from Western-made Fediverse culture. This reminded me of some other Japanese-style websites, such as textboards, chan imageboards and booru sites (booru imageboards are essentially a tag-based media archive, which similarly to chan boards have entered into the English-speaking internet but remain niche, mostly centered on art communities such as anime and furry fandoms).
What other styles of websites exist beyond the English-speaking internet? Does their design reflect a different culture? Are they better in some ways?
- Can you think of any movies/tv shows/anime that depict a protagonist struggling with amnesia-like symptoms after being involved in time travel?
I am struggling a bit to word the question so I'll explain my thought process a bit.
I was thinking about Back to the Future style time travel where someone goes back in time, makes alterations to the past, and returns to a different life around the time they left but without actually acquiring the memories of their new life. Most of the time this happens at the end of the movie or series and they're depicted only slightly confused but the viewer is given the impression they'll integrate just fine. I'm wondering what's out there for media where the conclusion of the protagonist's adventures with time travel is just the beginning and the protagonist now has to struggle to make sense of everything.
Even with the short time loop/do-over premise that's in movies like Palm Springs, Groundhog Day, and Omni Loop I feel like it could be difficult to interact with people afterwards. I imagine knowing everything about someone and having them regard you as a stranger would be frustrating and overwhelming.
From what I've seen the premise seems a bit under explored.
- Has anyone watched Sean Foo on YouTube? What are your thoughts?
I don't usually watch YouTube for news, but whenever I do, I like to watch Sean Foo's videos. I don't think he's a Marxist, but I like the quality of his videos. Unlike other news YouTubers he's somewhat smaller and more detailed in his uploads.
I'm asking if other users have watched his videos; what are your thoughts on his analysis of current events?
Do you have any YouTubers or videos you watch for news? I'd like to watch more ML YouTubers for news.
- Did I miss the sign? And when have you?
So I was volunteering for smth and was in a waiting room, the other three volunteers were friends (strangers to me but were there together). One of them ordered tea and I got coffee and she offered me some cookies she had. At this point she had once initiated conversation with me before but that's it. After that she did do so again. On my drive back I thought it might've been a conversation starter that I ignored completely. All I said was ok, yes or thank you to anything she said. I was perfectly kind, just not talkative.
I just wanna know tbh, I'm in a relationship anyways (not gonna tell her, is that a bad call?).
So what sign have you missed recently?
Edit: It appears she's just talkative af. She's cool and my gf met her and didn't think anything was off either. I'm just too cocky ig ๐ญ
- Recommend me good e-reader
Kobo Clara BW VS newest paperwhite VS smth less popular but still good. Not interested in color. Libra 2 seems very interesting but very hard to find.
- What was your cringe teenage phase?
Mine was probably when I relapsed towards religion at age 15-16 and joined my mom's conservative megachurch, naรฏvely thinking I can convince them to be less bigoted and more "christ-like" as well as accept science
- Is it weird to try to behave perfectly?
Alright, so, something I've been talking about with my therapist a lot, but I thoughts folks out here could have interesting povs.
To sum it up, I'm constantly trying to act like a saint (figuratively, I'm an atheist). There's one exception to this, people holding power and making others miserable in any way.
But basically, you know, this whole mentality of banishing anger, jealousy, egoism, selfishness, greed, desire for power and authority and all that? That's me.
I don't mean I manage to do so constantly, but that's what I strive for.
One could think, and I did think, it was a desire for social praise. But really, when I get praised, which happen a lot, I don't care and that's more awkward that anything (like : woa dude, it's not the Oscars or something, chill out). And little by little, I started to think it didn't have much to do with being praised, that's just striving to live as I think it's better to live. To live a life I'll me content with when the grim reaper will come and all praises won't mean anything anymore.
My therapist thinks it's not really an issue as long as it doesn't cause myself pain (which it does because I'm deaf to my own needs 50% of the times).
But I don't see a satisfying way to live apart from that.
One potential misinterpretation I'd like to prevent. It's a very strong drive, but it doesn't make me blind. It really doesn't happen a lot but whenever I'm angry, I'm not feeling guilty. I know why I feel this, it's just that I didn't have any other way to manage a situation/feeling. I'll just strive to do better next time by trying to modify the situation so that anger will not be the most probable answer.
Do you find it weird? Anyone adopting this kind of behavior? Maybe everyone does. It may sound a bit megalomaniac, like hey I'm exceptional, but it really isn't what I mean. To my own eyes, I'm not a bad or a good person. I'm just trying to be what I want. If somebody tries to be someone different, it's all fine by me.
TL;DR : Is having high moral standards for one's self weird or toxic? Does my message actually sound megalomaniac?
- Anki users, what are you learning now?
Recommend me nice things to learn, bonus if there's a deck available
- What do you think of sarcasm in online posts? Why do you think it's so common?
Maybe it's just a reddit/Threadiverse thing, maybe it's stronger in political communities, but I constantly see sarcasm everywhere online, far more than anywhere else. Scroll down and you'll even see it here.
Funnily enough, in a vacuum, one might expect online forums to avoid it more, since written text can mask tone and make sarcasm unintentionally ambiguous, to the point where it's common to see people adding </s> tags to clarify. It's not rare to see arguments started when people don't recognise non-literal language.
Is it merely a habit being repeated? Is it a widespread coping mechanism for frustration? Is it simply the lowest form of wit, a simple and popular way to make fun? Is it an effective way to normalise unpopular views with the plausible deniability of just making jokes?
- Online tools for organizing locally?
cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/3876283
> I'm passing this question along, because I think we might have folks here who have some suggestions. > > What tools or combination of tools are folks using to organize in your local area and beyond? > > A relative of mine was asking me about software to replace the event/RSVP/page aspects of Facebook. > > It almost sounds like he wants a locked down Lemmy instance or a combination of tools, but I'm not sure what the landscape is like out there. > > Any input would be cool. I might link him to this post later if I get enough comments.
- What are you going to do, no matter how small, to make the world a little better?
Lots of people are feeling hopeless and upset right now, and for good reason. It's normal to feel like no matter what you do, things are going to get much worse for a lot of people. Blame, despair and anger are natural reactions, but as the shock of the situation dulls, what's your plan going forward?
Call me naive, but seeing hate have a resurgence makes me want to do more to help the people that are going to suffer the most. I'm going to make a plan to volunteer more of my time and resources to help organizations that need it. I'm going to see if my friends can organize with me to sponsor a migrant family. I may not be able to do much, but my personal way of coping with shitty situations is to try to make the world a little less shitty.
I'm going to try to be kinder and more forgiving with people, and be a better role model for my kids. And I'm going to resist and fight back against hate when I see it.
Lastly, I'm going to be a more supportive friend to the people in my life. And to anyone reading this that feels like this world's gone insane, and you're all alone: you're not. We're still in this together, and I appreciate everything you're doing.
- Servers/wait staff, do you find it rude if patrons stack their plates while waiting for the check?
Iโve always ment for it to be helpful, but I can see it being read rude or passive aggressive. Thank you in advance for your time and your thoughts!
- Would you pick Florida or Hawaii for a beach vacation in Dec - Jan?
I want to go with my son during his winter break. Never been to any of these 2 but he really likes the beach so Iโd like to take him to a proper tropical place this time.
- Which dystopic megacorp do we get first in our brave new world?
Cyberdyne Systems, Wayland-Yutani Corporation, Tyrell Corporation, or Arasaka Corporation? Something else?
- Should I switch to a different IT job?
I'm working at this health company; it's my first IT job, and I've been here a little more than half a year so far. I do appreciate the opportunity I was given, but man, this place is kind of a wreck. The boss didn't want to upgrade the Windows 7 computer that's sitting on the network and utterly refused to do so. Even with everything that was shown that it could be upgraded, he was pissed, and it took six months to finally upgrade it to Windows 11 with the necessary software we have.
Another crucial issue is that literally the people who work on the floor have FULL ADMINISTRATOR ACCESS to install any programs they want. I brought this up to him, and he said, "We have bigger battles to fight." The computers are literally just "Password" or the start date of the employees. So literally all someone has to do is ask when they started working here, and boomโthey have access to their account. We also had local accounts sitting on every computer. He does not want to change any of this.
I am capable of switching jobs. I have talked one-on-one with big figures in the field like Richard Stallman before. I do testing and help port hardware for coreboot/Libreboot. I am also looking into getting my Linux+ (currently only have my A+). What should I do?
(My boss and I are the only two IT people)
- Do you decorate for holidays?
I don't own decorations of any kind for any holiday. I live alone and I don't really celebrate much of anything. So my questions are:
- Do you decorate your home, office, automobile, etc. at all?
- If so which holidays?
- Other than English and Spanish, what would be a very useful language to learn?
If I could only learn one additional language, and I wanted to travel the world, what language would serve me best other than English or Spanish?