Unaware status-seeking behavior. Almost everyone does it.
Immediately self describing without you asking.
Eating with their mouth open.
- Right-wing
- Cluster-B traits
- *-ist, *-phobe
- Prescriptive gender roles
- Smokes
What is cluster B?
What about Claustro-, Arachno-, Haemo-, etc.phobes? Or Cyclists or Scientists?
Cluster B personality disorders - most commonly known for borderline and narcissistic PDs.
OK what about vapes though.
Even worse.
^^ end of thread here
Cluster-B traits are the bane of my existence.
Rudeness to cashiers, wait staff, housekeepers, children or elderly people. If you are mean or rude to these people I assume you think you matter more based on social standing, and can't be bothered to even be polite. At that point I don't care if you are nice to me.
So many things.
- queer phobic. I'm not queer but many of my friends are. I don't need that negativity in my life.
- smoker. Maybe a pass if they are actively trying to quit. Maybe. Most active smokers I've known have kind of been assholes about it, though.
- littering. Sometimes combined with the above when smokers throw their butts on the ground
- being a jerk about people having healthy hobbies. Like, just let someone enjoy some video games or bird watching or whatever. I can't with people who are like "omg that's so childish you still [play games/read fiction/go to the zoo/whatever]?".
- being anti-consent. I've met a few women who are like "just do stuff and I'll tell you if I don't like it" and I'm like lady there's some "stuff" that can be done that by the time it's happening , the damage is done. Let's just have a conversation about what we like and what our boundaries are.
The fuck is wrong with going to the zoo? Other than if it's a shitty zoo giving animals a shit life, but c'mon.
it's "childish" to enjoy fun things like the zoo, according to some incomprehensibly boring and immature people.
littering.
I was going out with this guy I really liked. Probably 3rd or 4th date. We decided to take a drive, and went to a local grist mill. Walked around, had a nice time. Took the scenic route home on this road that ran along a pristine Tennessee Creek. He was drinking a Gatorade or something, and when he finished it, rolled down the window and chucked the bottle out into the creek.
I stopped the car, made him go pick it up (or I wasn't going to drive him the 20+ miles home), and never called him again. Fuck. That. Behavior.
Use the word "Woke" (Or "Progre" in my language) Unironically.
Who do you mean by this?
Dogwhistle for "I hate people tackling social issues and think we should go back to women being controlled and abused, and men being miserable all day at work, while we completely disregard queer and children's mental health".
Or at least, it gets used that way by people who don't use it as a reclamation term in a positive sense.
Having a shitty attitude about anything.
It just seems like you're not able to enjoy things because you're just a sour person.
+1 to being rude to service staff Also MAGA apparel or citing Jesus/God constantly
Can I interest you in this Chick Tract?
/s
"Have you ever heard of Jordan Peterson?"
"That depends...what do you mean by have, what do you mean by you and what do you mean by heard of?"
Being rude to service staff. Immediate indicator on who they are as a person. There is zero reason to ever be mad at someone making near minimum wage whose job it is to grab you a drink or check you out or something. It also shows that they've themselves never worked service, which is a rite of passage
"Why should I tip?! I'm already paying for the service!"
Immediately leave without even telling them to take a cab.
Edit: 1, I am in the US, yes.
2: the wording sounded like it implied a behavior of a date while out dining. I was answering based on how I'd respond if a prospective mate treated underpaid US staff shitty.
Happens to be true in all modern western countries though, only the US seems unable to force companies to pay a livable minimum wage.
Might be picky but if they don't return their shopping carts or just leaves it in a parking spot
Smoking cigarettes
A hidden switch on their hip.
Anti-vaxxer / conspiracy theorist.
being mean to animals, not washing hands habitually, littering, leaving the shopping cart out, buzz cut / crew cut and variations thereof (for dudes, some chicks can rock it), having no weird behaviors at all. refusal to be emotionally honest (oh no, its me i'm sorry)
I just like my hair short and not in my face. :(
Buzz cut for me screams "I'm an NPC and I have no personality." At least that's the first impression it passes to me.
Buzz cut to me screams “I have so much social anxiety, have been bullied so badly, that I don’t trust a barber to give me a good haircut”
Smoker.
Poor hygiene.
General negativity or insecurity.
Late to time commitments.
Drinks/imbibes beyond group vibes.
drinks/imbibes beyond group vibes.
How about drinking while cooking? Yk, having wine while cooking steak au jus or something.
I don't have a problem with drinking. It's unattractive when someone ignores the situation and drinks way too much. "Beyond group vibes" means out of touch with whoever they're drinking with.
If everyone else is enjoying a quiet get together, maybe one drink or two, don't get raging drunk. If everyone else is smoking weed, don't start doing shrooms.
If it's a party where everyone's drinking more and plans to get home safely have been established, then go ahead and drink to match.
On early dates, getting to know someone, I'm having one drink if any at all as a matter of safety. If the guy I'm out with gets drunk while I'm sober, that's an ick.
Compliments me by insulting everybody else.
“It’s so cool that you X. Everybody not in the room sucks because they don’t do X”
Just leave that second sentence off please.
Someone that takes abstract statements personally and responds in anger. It shows a lack of self awareness and depth. It also implies that they have a limited binary view of the world around them; a bipolar me versus others perspective outlook.
In the romantic sense, someone that seems dumb or childish. I just can't go there without some sense of being a peer.
Ok, I get that you don't like stupid people, but you shouldn't judge people solely on how they act. You can act like a child and be a intelligent and a competent person.
The opposite for me tbh, someone who can't let loose and have some stupid fun every so often isn't my bag.
There's a difference between goofy and dumb. Goofy is fun, I'm all over that. Actually dumb is exhausting and awkward, it's just not fun
Lemmy.ml mod /s
Lack of interest, like they're just waiting their turn to talk about what they want to talk about and not actually listening to me.
The other big one off the top of my head is not liking any animals. I get most people eat them, but if you straight up don't like anyone else you're kinda scary. No thank you.
Talking over the top of me. If what you have to say is so much more interesting that what I was already saying, maybe you should be saying it to a paying audience somewhere else.
Certain accents. She can be gorgeous and all, but some accents are an immediate turnoff for me…
Now we need to know which ones.
I’m gonna bet bri’ish
🚨 Eurocentrism incoming 🚨
Eating others. Only gunna be dating vegans.
Sex isn't vegan
Being a gun owner or enthusiast, if you don't need to hunt to survive.
young with a mustache..
