Like: Chlorinated water smell, so yes bleach, there was a chlorinated water fountain in a building I used to work in and I would just go sit by it and smell it, so relaxing. Pot and tobacco both smell so good before they are burning, too, but the smoke, no, yuck.

Dislikes: I have trouble with rose, lavender.

I was almost 25, in the 1990s, singing along in my car to Elton John, confidently belting out ""Love, I feel it in my hands, I can tell by the things I would do with another man"" when I suddenly realized that it was unlikely a guy would have a hit song about what he'd do with a guy in the 60s or 70s. Even as a little kid I'd known Elton John was gay, and hadn't really been brought up to think that was weird (thank you, mom and dad and your theater friends) .

I looked up the lyrics and it's love lies bleeding in my hands, it kills me to think of you with another man and the name of the fucking song is love lies bleeding, I didn't know that either.

The places I waxed had very coarse and curly deep rooted hair in sensitive areas and yes it sure hurts, but shaving always caused ingrown hairs and razor burn, it doesn't really anymore. So like an acute pain instead of a chronic pain I guess.

Lasering probably does the same more efficiently but maybe too efficiently if you want to keep your options open. And it hurts too.

I'm a lady but waxing has certainly changed my experience with shaving lower body. Apparently every time you pull out the hairs, a few give up (as evidenced by all the skinny eyebrows of anyone who survived the 1990s). Over time there are fewer, and the growback is not nearly as itchy as shaving. I have no idea if it's offered for beards but if so it might get you to the point you could shave comfortably, it did that for me at the other end of my body, it still grows as fast but is not so thick, individual hairs are finer and there are fewer of them.

More likely she didn't see you at all, only saw what she wanted to.

ETA: something like this happened to one of my daughters, her boss wanted her to marry his son (who she did not even like) basically because they liked her and wanted her in their family, and thought she'd be good for him, without even considering how bad he'd be for her!

Ha! I like drinks so much (obviously) but as part of food culture more than drinking culture - I make delicious drinks, not awful ones, and hate being drunk so usually just have one and enjoy it. I think it's like coffee or complicated food flavors, not immediately enjoyable like cake might be, but once you appreciate the complexity, it is so very enjoyable.

A good wife for someone, or for the person speaking? If the former, I probably agree with you. If the latter, I would mention that not all people have that image of a wife as someone defined by being housewife and executive assistant. Husband considers me a good wife because we love each other and I can handle the budget and hold down a job and cook so much better than he can (not a high bar to reach) but we are both adults, he cleans way more than I do, does the shopping at least half the time, we work together. He'd not consider a stereotype of traditional wife a good wife. I don't know many people who do, come to think of it.

I don't mind people calling me nerdy. Once overhead someone telling someone else at work that I was "so funny" when generally I keep it in check at work, and that felt complimentary as well.

But one time a yoga teacher told us in a class "you are bigger than you think" and I don't even know what she meant, my stomach dropped, I felt absolutely awful. And while I am womanly as fuck, absolutely delight in being a woman, I dislike being seen as feminine. I don't like being complimented on looking curvy, softness and squish freaks me out much more than it should. I know people mean those as compliments but they make me want to cry.

A gentleman never discloses his age or his lovers!

Or if you are feeling rude, ask them why they think it's their business, or just say you don't mix work and your personal life.

Can I trust my friends, my work, my family? And these agents can't be everywhere at once? Then I put on running gear, sunglasses, hair in a ponytail, jog like I'm just white lady exercising, to the house of my family member and ask for help, get a car borrowed from their neighbor and get on the train north to where I have more family, hoping I can stay one step ahead until I figure out what the heck is going on and handle it somehow.

It's been 8-5 or 8:30-5:30 or 9-6 everywhere I've worked an office job. But I had a friend move to NYC and she said there everyone worked hard but came in at 9, took an hour lunch and left at 5.

What? Who are you communicating with, and what shortcuts are you talking about? I text with my kids and they use more shortcuts and abbreviations than I do.

In work emails, I try to think of the recipient when writing them. Some people are chattier and prefer a nice introduction and thorough explanation, but my boss likes to just see messages like:

Posted on 13-May, thanks.

So if that's what you are talking about maybe you just have a more social communication style.

Though I will say my husband uses the ominous ellipses too often, like...

I am not good at watching TV. I like it once a week or so but reading is so much more enjoyable for me than videos.

I'm not antisocial but quite socially lazy, I have never lived alone and grew up in a large family so not good at going out and partying, getting together, keeping up with friends. Reasonably good at hosting parties but that's different, it's like a puzzle to solve and is fun.

Excuse me, did you mean to say that out loud?

and

Insecure much?

I think in general, sometimes a glittering beautiful so sharp it cuts to the bone comeback just comes to mind, and sometimes it doesn't, so it's good to remember that what people say, says more about them personally than the person they are talking about.

I would think this false but my ex MIL (my kids grandma) does do that to my husband (who doesn't care). I can't imagine touching anyone at work without explicit permission and probably not even then. It seems so messed up.

Would choose 45 as the age to stay. I would need an option to be able to die, in case the world I was on exploded or something, and some immortal companions. That's the main requirements. I think in terms of getting bored, it would take a really long time if we could go all around this world and watch it changing, and eventually if it's possible to get bored we would, it seems unavoidable.

In practice, I wouldn't take this option since I already had kids. I think you have to choose one or the other, immortal beings can't procreate, that's the rules, it can only be one in, one out, not an increasing population and also it would be too sad to see my kids get old and die.

I don't understand why you have to answer at all when someone asks your age, but find it hilarious that you just keep resetting to 25 every year. How do they keep believing it? Do you change jobs every year? Why do you care if someone judges your lifestyle if it's what you want?

You aren't going to break doing heavy lifting at 43. If you feel it's damaging you, that's separate from your age.

This whole question is so funny - I do think people see what they expect, not what is. I had 2 kids when young then 2 more when older, and it was so funny - people who only saw me with my younger set thought I was much younger than I am. People who knew me from the first set thought I was about my age. People who saw me with all of them thought I was a grandma and older than I am.

Figs. Fresh figs are only occasionally available here and I never remember when so miss them half the years. I also wish my citrus trees had fruit all year, that would be awesome.

And the afternoon thunderstorms. It's so hot already and they haven't started yet, and last year failed entirely because of el Nino. I wouldn't mind them being all year.

Well, I can still do a cartwheel, it's good for surprising children. Thumbs bend backwards.

I can also reach all of me, which my husband seems to think odd, can put sunscreen on my own back so I don't think it's useless.

Same.