What thoughts/memories did you have before coming out, in hindsight, are big signs you were trans?
What thoughts/memories did you have before coming out, in hindsight, are big signs you were trans?
I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.
Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️
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I (mtf) used to have the classic embarrassment about going shirtless as a boy, took me years to somewhat overcome. Still somewhat feel it these days but I begrudgingly deal with it anyway because my area is warm as heck.
Also always thought being a man was meh and women were fucking amazing and interesting in pretty much every way but that was totally because I was attracted to them and respectful, still totally cis though!
A particularly sad/hilarious one is the intense and euphoric recurring dreams about being a girl followed by inevitably waking up devastated, that's totally a thing everyone has, right? Right, guys??
I didn't know about the shirtless thing being a sign. I did have a time like that but I had assumed it was because I didn't like my fat body and later puberty body hair. It might have been more complicated that that 😅
I may have done something similar about the women thing too. Can't say about the dreams though.
Haha yup, I didn't connect the dots until I heard some trans folks bring it up a while ago, seen it mentioned a few extra times since. I definitely had some of the body image thing going on too but in hindsight there was some big, unknown discomfort I couldn't quite put my finger on at the time. I legit couldn't put into words just how deeply weird it felt to have my chest exposed and it bewildered people nearly as much as it did myself lol.
I forgot until later that somewhere nearish to that time I also felt weird about it because I thought somehow everyone messed up at my birth and thought I was a boy, but I wasn't and no one knew but me. 😂 I was young enough to not know enough anatomy, but the thought still 😅
THE SHIRTLESS NIGHTMARE! I forgot about those, I got them so often. Now I want to know how common it is in cis boys.