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  • turbulence

    the waves crashing down are a terrible thing but the sounds on the shore where the little birds sing can be all that i need to keep going despite all the troubles surviving the ocean at night

    i want to keep going; i cannot concede to the violence within causing me to recede

    i know that i can't always gain what i seek but i know not how to escape from such a bleak and foreboding dismay of ideas in my mind and the fairy tale ending that's so hard to find

    the journey itself is a battle it seems but there's hope in my heart to fulfill all my dreams

    and i think that i must not sink further below

    this struggle is real and i can still feel the undertow

    but i will go on

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  • How's your week been?

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  • Codependency Issues in the LGBTQ+ Community
    theaddictedmind.com 198 Dealing with Codependency Issues in the LGBTQ+ Community with Miriam Geiger - The Addicted Mind Podcast

    The LGBTQ community has long been underserved by the mental health care system as well as recovery supports, despite being an increasingly visible and sizable part of the general population. In part, this is due to the ongoing discrimination and prejudice that members of the LGBTQ community face on ...

    198 Dealing with Codependency Issues in the LGBTQ+ Community with Miriam Geiger - The Addicted Mind Podcast

    Have you been in a codependent relationship?

    My transition has helped me realize just how bad the codependency was in my marriage. Things are really rough for me currently as we try and untangle the destructive habits.

    I have never had a sense of identity outside of my relationship with my wife. Now that is changing, it means my marriage must change with it... or not.

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  • undertow

    i try to escape when it feels like i'm being pulled down and i don't know how to get out of here

    being held under the surface fighting for a purpose igniting several verses

    as it all goes gray i fear for today and the promise of tomorrow there's bound to be sorrow i wish i could borrow the power to eliminate this dread and despair and somehow to repair myself

    it's almost too much to stay where i am to battle my demons to debate why the land that i know is the road to no- where

    and if i can somehow overcome this now and keep from being pulled down again i'd still have to try to make a break for the shore and i don't know what to do anymore i'm trapped on the floor watching waves crash above but i'm guided by Love

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  • How's your week been?

    If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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  • Pride?

    How do you feel about Pride? Plan on going to any events?

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  • New Nintendo "Paper Mario" remake features transgender character
    www.cbsnews.com New Nintendo "Paper Mario" remake features transgender character

    In the remake of the Nintendo game "Paper Mario: The Thousand-Year Door" the character Vivian reveals she is transgender.

    New Nintendo "Paper Mario" remake features transgender character
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  • How's your week been?

    If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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  • I want to get into voice training and have no baseline

    As the title says, I want to get into being more feminine with my voice, however, I find that I am highly inconsistant where I begin to slip out of it. I also dont know what parts I from my old voice should remain and what should change. It feels fake, like a unholy mix of micky mouse and logdotzip. Some of my best voice recordings make me excited but reminds me how fucked my default voice is. I swear, ive reached that voice almost instinctively whilst in euphoria and now cant find it again.

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  • Going mute when trying to come out? Any tips?

    Hi all! I'm a trans woman who's known since I was a kid. My classmates brought up the topic of being trans once in class, and I remember mentioning my desire to "maybe become a woman when I grow up", as I put it. I can't remember the reaction clearly, but I must've been pretty put off since I didn't attempt to talk about it for quite a while after.

    Fast forward to me being about 14. I get a deep episode of dysphoria and instead of hiding away like I usually would, I go to my mother, entirely pale in the face. We talk a bit in private and the only thing I can get out of my mouth is that I don't feel like a boy. She takes it as me not feeling like I live up to the gender norms and tries to solve that. Meanwhile I can't keep talking. My brain stops producing words at all and I just can't say anything.

    This happens a lot of times over the years every time my mother asks me to buy new clothes for myself, every time the same complete shutdown. I really just want to continue working this out, and I'm in desperate need of new clothes, since I haven't bought any in years. I hate buying men's clothes, but if I continue boy-moding when I go back home, I'd have to buy new ones.

    Thank you for reading this, whoever you are. I'm running on practically no sleep so I apologize if this is wordy, or unclear in any way. I just need to be done with this.

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  • The Forgotten History of the World's First Trans Clinic [The Institute for Sexual Research, founded by Doctor Magnus Hirschfeld in Berlin, Germany (1919-1933)]
    web.archive.org The Forgotten History of the World's First Trans Clinic

    The Institute for Sexual Research in Berlin would be a century old if it hadn’t fallen victim to Nazi ideology

    The Forgotten History of the World's First Trans Clinic

    "Love is as varied as people are."

    ~Magnus Hirschfeld (date unknown)

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  • How's your week been?

    If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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  • The past I've never had

    I can't help but think at night Of that which never was, but might.

    I've faced the demons deep inside And found the answers that they hide. But if I'd known it all back then, Just think how much it could've changed...

    It took so long to find the way That most are trailing every day, And now they seem so far ahead. I miss the past I've never had, Where all I took so long to see Were always clear, and I'd be free.

    How can I catch up with the rest? How can I make up for the past? Is it too late to change my fate? Have I missed the train of luck? Has life gone by while I was stuck?

    -- Lady Scarecrow

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  • The annual gender census of 2024 is now open

    Link to the survey itself: https://www.smartsurvey.co.uk/s/GenderCensus2024

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  • How's your week been?

    If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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  • Who has been your biggest support during your transition?

    And how have they shown that support to you?

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  • Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room
    matrix.to You're invited to talk on Matrix

    You're invited to talk on Matrix

    cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/13674539

    > Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room > > If you are having issues finding housing as a trans person or would like to help others, consider joining this new matrix chat room. > > Sharing and updoots appreciated.

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  • trans girl searching for friends in southeast Louisiana

    Hi, I'm Emma! If you recognize my avi from Matrix chat rooms, yes I'm that Emma. 😊

    Ada and others can verify that I'm legit.

    So, long story short:

    • I am lonely

    • I wanna befriend some local trans people here in southeast Louisiana

    About me:

    • I started HRT January 2023

    • I have ESP! (Estrogen Spironolactone Progesterone)

    • I'm a Linux nerd

    • I use QubesOS

    I'm making this post here, because this is a much bigger audience than the Matrix chat rooms, but I am also nervous.

    I know the odds are still against me, but I have to try.

    Edit:

    DMs between Lemmy and Kbin/Mbin still do not work, so here is my Lemmy account:

    @Emma0@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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  • How's your week been?

    If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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  • I'm the Duluth Critter

    Hey all, I'm a cis ally in the upper Midwest of the USA. I offered a room to Keris a while back and she accepted.

    She got here Wednesday night and things are going very well. She likes me, my wife, and our cats and one dog, and is learning to tolerate the other.

    She has an attic bedroom that is her space alone.

    She has time to unwind and figure out what she wants to do without fear of being dumped on the streets.

    I just wanted to let you all know that we have taken her in and that she is safe and loved.

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  • Fashion Friday!

    The first friday of every month is Fashion Friday! Give us your favourite fashion tips, tell us what you love wearing, or even post a photo!

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  • How's your week been?

    If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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  • How's your week been?

    If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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  • Those of you that have children. What does it mean to be a dad or mom to you?

    Been a while since I've posted here but missed you all!

    I'd love for this to be a discussion question, but also I am legitimately asking.

    I have a beautiful son who helped crack my egg when he was born. But I'm still struggling understanding what being a mom means other than "just how I feel"

    I never had good blueprints for being a father or mother so all I know is generally "how to be a parent"

    But I'm curious to those of you that have children. What does being a mother mean to you? What does being a father mean to you?

    Thank you

    -Liv

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  • How's your week been?

    If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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  • The ghost

    When I was born, so was a ghost. When anyone would look at me, It was the ghost they'd really see.

    I was a child, and couldn't tell. I thought I was that ghost as well. But, slowly, truth would start to show. And when at last I let them know...

    ...They turned their heads and sought the ghost. The ghost was all they wished to see. The ghost was who they loved the most. The ghost of who they thought me to be.

    It's been so long, and still they yearn What's only lived inside their minds. I wonder if they'll ever learn That while they seek what none can find, And fail to let me into their hearts, We both end hurt, and drift apart.

    -- Lady Scarecrow

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  • Important Healthcare Information

    Hey y'all,

    This is specifically for people in the US healthcare system.

    If you are getting a test or procedure done, ask them what the cost is without insurance. It may end up being significantly cheaper.

    I had to go get a basic metabolic panel blood test today and they were going to charge me $350. When I asked what the cost was without insurance, it was $100. Mind you, I have good insurance. It's around $1500 a month.

    This has happened multiple other times with different people that I know. Just asking could save you a significant amount of money.

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  • I finally started HRT(!) but I have a question about applying patches

    I have finally started HRT and applied the first patch yesterday evening but I'm wondering if the place and how I've applied is good enough/fine like this? Just want to make sure I've done everything right and don't want to find out in 3 months that I've been screwing this up the whole time.

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  • What thoughts/memories did you have before coming out, in hindsight, are big signs you were trans?

    I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

    Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️

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  • Who you are vs. Who you like?

    There have been similar posts in the past and you all might be tired of commenting on them, but I'm really curious what it's like for others. So here I am posting my own question thread.

    Given that our core identities are defined by lots of different quirks, gender, romance, sexuality, platonic affinity being some of them. I am curious to know what aspects all of you measure yourself by and how you place yourselves within the bigger picture. Especially hoping for some wholesome takes that may help someone else feel more comfortable with themselves, should they adopt the way of thinking.

    I'll share my own take: Gender identity

    • Masculine-feminine spectrum: Definitely more comfortable with feminine side.
    • Fluidity: experiencing some, not sure if that is because of uncertainty or inherent.
    • Intensity flux: also experiencing some, some days are just a little extra "I want to be a girl"-days.
    • Overall: unsure about where that leaves me, status quo (I'm just me) is fine for now.

    Attraction to others

    • Sexuality: Definitely bisexual, trans-inclusive (who would have guessed).
    • Romantic...ality?: Vastly different from sexuality, mostly romantically interested in women (cis or trans), i'd say biromantic with a 90% bias. Any men I've had romantic interest in shared some feminine traits, so 'femromantic'? Is that a thing?

    Social traits

    • Platonic affinity: Find myself feeling most comfortable around women. As long as I can remember I've always been one of the girls and some interactions with men actually confirm that I'm absolutely nothing like the average dude.
    • General sensitivity: Without a doubt HSP, even though others usually can't tell (which gets me in trouble).
    • Social tolerance: Intuitively introverted, though have become more outgoing lately, so not strictly introverted.

    Obviously these are just some examples of things we can measure ourselves by, curious to see which ones you will add or remove and why. And it goes without saying: Only share what you're comfortable sharing.

    TL;DR: I'm a huge nerd and have reduced myself to an n-dimensional vector, and I'm asking you to do the same and maybe add some dimensions you know of.

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  • Where to buy this pill case??

    For some reason I can only find stock images of this pill case. I have it on good authority it makes a satisfying clicking noise and my gay, neurodivergent ass wants one.

    Ideally not an Amazon link, I deleted my account a bit ago and I do not plan to make a new one.

    UPDATE: It would seems this is a prepackaged way E is sometimes distributed. Thanks to folks that pointed this out.

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  • Those who hold/held out hope for the acceptance of a loved one: How do/should you let go of it in a healthy way?

    Found out tonight that my mom is in the hospital and been diagnosed with late stage lung cancer. I've been low contact with her since shortly after coming out. It sounds like they don't expect her to leave.

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  • Looking For More Mods (c/Trans)

    Questions for potential candidates:

    1. What is your vision for this community

    2. What time zone/country are you in

    3. Do you have mod experience with reddit or Lemmy

    4. What do you like about c/trans? What would you improve?

    5. Do you have experience with using bots on Lemmy and with the python language?

    Note: there are no right and wrong answers to these questions. The only hard requirement that we have to be a mod is that you have to be an active member of the community and have a history of that.

    Edit: The new mods have been selected. Thank you to everyone who applied.

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  • After some consideration I decided to ask for the help I need. This is my Gofundme, please do not feel obligated to click or donate.
    gofund.me Donate to Trans-refugee trying to get a hold of life in a new state., organized by Kora Hendley

    I'm Kora (she/her), a silly and fun trans woman from the "swea… Kora Hendley needs your support for Trans-refugee trying to get a hold of life in a new state.

    Donate to Trans-refugee trying to get a hold of life in a new state., organized by Kora Hendley

    After helping some others on here, I realized its both OK, and a good idea for me to ask for help with my current situation. I've posted some details about my situation before, but I tried to write a more concise explanation on my fundraising page.

    Thanks for even bothering to read this, and for any help you may be able to give. Thank you 💜💜💜

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  • How's your week been?

    If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/

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  • Lemmy's Transmasculine Problem

    Y'all, we have a problem.

    These are some of the results of a survey done on our community concerning gender identity:

    1.08% Binary Trans men (4).

    1.08% Transmasculine people (4).

    1.35% Cis women (5).

    That's right, there are more CIS WOMEN on a TRANS community than binary trans men or transmasculine people alone.

    We have a problem.

    This isn't just a Blahaj problem. Another queer instance did a similar survey and found only 3% of their users were trans and use he/him pronouns.

    Not having enough transmasc voices is going to be detrimental to our community. There are plenty of transmasc people on the internet. The problem is with Lemmy.

    So what are we gonna do about it?

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  • Behold, The Results Are IN

    For context, these are the results of a survey that I gave to the users of c/Trans.

    What are your thoughts?

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