I remember being young and thinking middle-aged people are staring at me because they want me /they disapprove/whatever.
Now I'm middle aged myself, I know the staring is way more likely to either be something along the lines of "ah that kid is so 90s, I never had that green colour but blue Fudge used to wash out to green like that..."
Or "have we run out of natural yoghurt, we bought that 500ml pottle last week but we had curry twice, maybe I should get some more..."
I did this once in freshman year HS. I was sitting on my friend's desk zoned out staring at a book on someone else's desk, and I came out of it when a girl said "THOSE ARE BOOBS"
Idk how long I was staring, but I was still kinda pissed because she was just standing in front of me for no discernable reason.
"OK so she must've bleached the full head then done the green side first, then the black side. Man her scalp must be itchy as fuck. What did I used to use to stop the burn? Coconut oil? Yeah that's right. Smelt like Malibu for a week or so, and had to throw out that set of pillow cases. Man that sucks, I loved those pillow cases, perfect for winter. I wonder if you can still get them?"
Morpheus: ".... and find out just how deep the rabbit hole goes." Only it's more like an interconnected maze of rabbit holes leading everywhere. I wonder if you can still get "pina colada" Malibu?
Theoretically she could part her hair with a knife and bleach the green side, wait 20 min and put the black side on with a toothbrush, then wash it and add the green as required?
I'm still wondering how the 90s entered kids garderobes again overnight. Sometimes I see a very funny xxxxxxxxwide jeans and I talk about that with my kids in the car and yes I do stare a bit with curiosity and amusement.
Fashion goes in cycles. Personally I'm just waiting for the nice wide jeans to filter down to an affordable price point and then I'm going to get some for myself.
I hate skinny jeans. They feel cloying and I'm pretty sure they promote swamp crotch.
I know this Is an old post, but in the early 2000s 70's fashion came back in vogue -- a 30 years difference. And 30 years ago from today is the 90s, so it makes sense.
I think it's a result of the 40 year old crowd. They're a demographic with money and starting to get nostalgic for their childhood, so the market caters to that . Kids get exposed to it, a few trend setters decide it's cool/vintage, and it takes off from there.
Jokes on you then. I'm probably staring because I'm trying to figure out what's going on with that eye makeup, and I have no idea what that face is supposed to mean.
I’ve got to admit, a girl makes that face at me, I’m going to walk up and start explaining the plot of Krull (1983) for as long as she can hold it. If she makes it through the whole thing I’m pretty sure we’re legally married.
that lip piercing (just like any other piercing in mouth) may cause tooth damage and/or gum recession over time. It's a bad idea.
Nope, nope, nope. Incorrect. Vertical labrets, which this person in the picture has, do not go into your mouth at all. It goes vertically straight up through your lip. No part of it is ever inside your mouth.
The piercing that’s sitting 2mm from her front teeth in the photo will never collide with them? Yeah ok chief, I do have eyes here. I’m sure she never chews on that conveniently place fidgeter.
There is a difference between a guy staring into the void, and an older guy checking you out. I've experienced both and I don't understand how people manage to confuse the two.
One day, about 10 years ago, a guy pull out a knife to fight me in a subway station because he thought I was staring at him. Also got some nasty comments from women who thought I was looking at them when I didn't even notice their presence. Now I try to look at the floor in public in case I get lost in my mind.
Fuck that's horrible. Yeah. I made eye contact with a guy that lasted too long. We were walking towards each other. He grabbed the back of my head and pushed it down. Wasn't as scary as it sounds. Just disrespectful. I avoid eye contact too. Some people are just evil.
It is in fact really easy to tell the difference, you just hear more about the times people make the mistake because it's not noteworthy when somebody goes "that guy's just staring off into space" and is right. You also likely have a bigger emotional reaction, assuming you're a guy, to a woman mistakenly thinking a guy is staring at her and being wrong than you do the knowledge that women get stared at a lot, so it makes the first seem like it's happening more often.
I've lived on both sides (trans) and can tell you I didn't realize it was this common to get really obviously stared at by older men. And the older they are the more likely they are to do it, which is lucky, because I'm much less afraid of a 70 year old man doing anything to me than a 20-40 year old. I find the only thing I can do in that situation is to avoid looking them directly in the eyes, because they take that as a sign to approach.
Am a woman. And sorry to hear about your bad experiences. Guess it comes with the territory huh? Older men sure know how to be creeps. And older women too. Cougars are predators after all.
The narcissism on so many levels is such an adorable aspect of this every generation
Same thing happened in :
90s with Goths,
80s with New Wave ,
70s with gender fluid androgyny,
60s with hippies,
50s with rock and roll...
20s with flapper girls.
Yeah its like they don't understand the difference between just looking at someone that has a cool haircut and someone creep staring at you to where you feel unsafe.
I don't want people staring at me like I'm a zoo animal. Bur apparently people in the comments here don't understand that.
you remind me of my acid dropping goth friend from the 80's. the "crazy" stare really sells it. wanna take drugs in the park and laugh at people in pleated jeans?
Yeah, if I'm staring at you, it means a) I'm thinking about what I'm cooking at home, or balancing HOR production with HOR-to-fuel conversion in Satisfactory and b) my eyes are so bad (I haven't had prescription glasses for years now) that you're a blur of colors.
I feel the eyes one. When I was a kid and showing old people how to use a computer, I used to think they were slow. Like they had to think. Now that I'm older, I'm waiting for my eyes to focus.
So if people dress a certain way its okay to stare like a weirdo?
The post isn't about just looking at someone. Its old creeps staring at young girls. There is a difference.
Weirdoing begets weirdoing. All sexuality and age stuff aside, she is being weird too, which seemed like the point here.
Though I wonder how much age really has to do with it. These days her classmates probably are running AI off her yearbook photo, if not her instagram. So an old guy looking at her funny in meatspace is probably more innocuous.
Sexist to notice someone with bright unnatural hair and heavy near clown makeup, sure. She’s keeping such a low profile, I can’t believe she would be looked at.
What does it mean when a middle aged man stars at you in public? Or, is starring at you? That sounds like some kind of situation in which you could probably call the cops.
It's super uncomfortable. I nowadays feel like a movie star but without any of the positives that go with it and only the negatives. Well mostly, sometimes someone smiles nicely which is nice.
She's trying to do ominous wide-eyes, like a manic character from a cartoon or something, the idea being that she would "scare away" the older gentleman with her "unhinged" look.
Of course to anyone who has lived even a week in the real world, instead it just looks like somebody trying to looking intimidating and failing