I had the same issue with Dragon Maid where the main couple - Tohru and Kobayashi - are actually a fun, cute, well handled queer couple, but every other character after that (besides Fafnir and Kobayashi's male coworker, Makoto) just really made me feel iffy and suspicious.
Overall I think this was a pretty good video discussing the topic and I think the author handled it pretty reasonably.