they know theyre not alone, thats why theyre in the TRANSFEM MAKEUP LEMMY COMMUNITY

this freedom member found the trick to surviving psy-waves!! duty hates him!!!

sorry, misinterpreted this before the edit was made

implying theres such thing as a good nazi protest? pardon?

my problem with this argument is always that it neglects the mental, social, and emotional effects of raising nicotine content

physically safer for your airways? sure, but definitely not mentally healthier

loool youre in the wrong place fully mask off with the "hope your kids get gangbanged" part doesnt sound you really care for the kids?

pookie politely this was posted in this community like yesterday or 2 days ago, 300 upvotes

Me and my friends meeting up after a week

its not day ruining, but as i said in my original comment the stress definitely adds up

oopsie daisies thats a config issue on my part ty

people like me who can be bothered by it

you not being upset by it doesnt necessarily mean there arent people who are upset by references to suicide or portrayals of sharp objects in this context

its not quite necessary or expected on lemmy as far as i can see but its definitely appreciated when i have to see one less triggering post, cause the stress does add up

though i will point out that its pretty useless when the image isnt spoilered or hidden within the body cause who reads the title first and THEN decides if they want to see the post

finally an acknowledgment of this

ive had to leave quite a few trans or generally lgbt focused communities online because of wild levels of codependence

the intense empathy in these communities can sometimes leave people susceptible to certain sorts of manipulation i feel,

several members of those communities i was in would be so easily manipulated by others, with threats like "do ____ or i will harm myself or i will not take care of myself appropriately"

and these often came from people in genuinely concerning and upsetting situations or histories, but they could use their own trauma to rope other people in and seemingly take them down with them

walking away from these kinds of people despite their threats is incredibly liberating

i said nothing arguing that suicidality is not unique or that professionals are always competent, i argued that trying to negotiate with someone who is suicidal is often traumatic and the average person isnt qualified to perform such negotiations

fun fact for the future: someone being suicidal is not your problem and you should not try to help beyond referring them to helpful resources

theres a reason mental health professionals are PROFESSIONALS and not just random kind people

you are (likely) not trained to handle this situatuon and thus should not engage in this lest you experience real trauma or worsen the other persons situation

so do not kill yourself in the process of trying to be the sole force stopping them

edit: felt the need to add if someone you know is experiencing suicidality, oftentimes the best and safest choice is just to make plans

suicidality is, in the majority of cases, spurred by short-term issues making people feel trapped in their current situation

so plan things with them! plan going out to a concert or restaurant! plan how they can enjoy life in the future!

this is something i feel VERY strongly about because of my own past experiences with feeling the need to "negotiate"

keep in mind im not saying you cant just talk about life with people expressing these ideas, just make sure the conversation doesnt turn into a "negotiation"

ty for reading my long ass comment thats indirectly about my own experiences i love all of you lemmings kthxbye <3

lol "never provised me with any actualy treatment for my back, just drugs" do you not realize that drugs... actually do things? are you really going to discount what a good anti-inflammatory agent can do for certain injuries? what pain-killers do for pain? treating inflammation and pain in itself is treating a "root cause" in a way, with recovery being expedited when inflammation is treated not to mention drugs that are more powerful than a simple anti-inflammatory agent

pretty based, if you wanna drown this drama beef out i always resort to a band called car bomb :3

I'm not sure I've seen this take expressed here before... but here I go. I think the thing I appreciate about Lemmy is that it isn't absurdly active. Before my switch to Lemmy (from Reddit ofc), I was compulsively checking Reddit for new content every 20 minutes, even taking priority over hyperfixations of mine. I like that there isn't new content every 20 minutes. It's like checking your fridge every 20 minutes for new food, and Reddit just keeps feeding you until you're upset. This place feels like it "restocks" every day so that I don't feel the need to check it obsessively. It's improved my relationship with social media entirely. My only issue is the amount of bait, not just in the form of trolls but people riling themselves and others up with politics. I get it, I'm extremely far left too, but god if I come here in hopes of being less anxious I always see something that feels designed to make me angry. It's less than Reddit but we could all work on considering if engaging is worth it. Learn to appreciate boredom and understimulation and it will change your life, especially those of you like me with an anxiety disorder.

sorry for the tangent, tl;dr less content actually makes me less anxious and more comfortable and we should learn to appreciate the boredom that comes with that

I used to be on ADHD stimulant meds up until I just tried living without them. Was on them as far back as I can remember, and then one day, I had no appetite, so I stopped and realized that the anxiety they gave me was hurting me more than I thought. Now, I'm on anxiety medication that sometimes makes it hard to focus, and I'm not entirely sure how to find that balance of being productive and not having panic attacks daily. Has anyone else experienced this?

thats both awfully unkind and ableist for the adhd lemmy community

this is it, still remember the joy of my first watch still rewatch it from time to time