Emotional_Series7814 @ Emotional_Series7814 @kbin.melroy.org

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Well, I'm trying to help out but in the end I'm not really a journaler, nor do I have any desire to become one. I'm sorry.

I suppose I'm probably the most anti-nature environmentalist. Protect this because we need it to live, and animals need it to live. But I really personally hate nature, it doesn't bring me pleasure. I have been to some of the wonders of the world and was not floored, breath not taken away. "Checks out, let's move on." (Why'd I go to see it then? Someone else with me wanted to see it :P I'm a lot more interested in history that directly involves humans or something once living. For me, dinosaurs and artifacts of early human civilization are cool, gems are not.) I don't marvel at it, and any reason to dismiss something made with cruelty is something I'll eagerly jump on, even if it's definitely not a popular perspective. To me it really is an overvalued thing you pulled out of the dirt, no matter the facts behind how it formed inside the dirt.

Disclaimer: I don't say this to be contrarian, I am really not the type. Popular ≠ bad and I'm not some special unique snowflake, I just have some quirks where I have a different opinion, as does everyone else! I don't like nature, others don't like chocolate. I think most people have at least one unpopular preference/dislike, this is mine.

Geoffrey Farrow at Raphael, a jeweller on the other side of the street, can only just bring himself to sell lab-grown diamonds. “They are synthetic,” he said. “Lab-grown sounds exotic, but it’s created – they make it by the buckets. There’s no history to it. The price is going to go down further and further.”

I find that a very interesting perspective. I prefer the idea of something we made with human ingenuity as opposed to some thing you dug out of the dirt, probably with a shoddily-hidden special history of slavery and tears, and before that, just sitting in the ground like a bunch of other boring things. The history of a lab-grown is entirely mine and my hypothetical partner's to create.

If I was a diamond person anyways. I'd be more worried about losing the expensive ring somehow and worrying over it, and would much rather buy the cheapest thing that can still socially function as "look, I am married, don't hit on me!" without having to wear some ugly shirt that says that. Ideally both me and my hypothetical partner would just forgo expensive rings (and don't get me wrong, I'm adamantly not a T-shirt and jeans person, I like to dress up, I have just never been a ring person) and spend it on something else we would both like.

For those who do not share my opinions on wedding rings, which is valid, I am also glad to hear lab-grown prices are down so people can still get that ring they love without breaking the bank and without supporting De Beers.

Because I am an idiot and it is actually !digitalgarden@lemmy.world

!digitalgardens@lemmy.blahaj.zone seems kind of relevant. I do not mod it for transparency.

As much as I like seeing bad ginormous corporate sites burn I am very glad you are not having that in the community, I nigh-on guarantee the negativity that would generate and the outrage would outshout any constructive post about building something. Destruction and watching the world burn is easier than building something nice in its place.

I know about the app where women message first. I also know men set their gender on the app to be a woman, so they can message first, and proceed to spam with dick pictures. So I still won't use it.

I am sorry about the women who want but won't give in return.

If it's worth anything to you, I've been the initiator in almost every romantic relationship I've been in. I'm a woman. Unfortunately I'm also used to being the initiator in all my relationships, including friendships, so I also want a guy to initiate with me, like the women you are complaining about… but that doesn't stop me from making the first move anyways. Saying this not for "pick me" stuff (please don't, nothing against you personally but I'm still a little old school in wanting to meet someone in real life first, not online) but to give hope that not all women are going to do all the things you are complaining about.

I also won't be found on dating apps because I'm convinced that's a quick road to getting hit with misogyny, racism (I'm nonwhite in the United States of America), and idiot bigots trying to make me change my orientation (asexual, only romantically interested in men). I've never experienced it before, and I do not want to open the door to it. I have seen so many online complaints about how nasty people game systems meant to protect us (like in the example I gave about the app that makes women message first). So for anyone looking to make a Fediverse dating app, you might want to look into both how to prevent/punish that type of interaction, and how people get around it. I'm not actively looking for love but if I ever do I'm not going to be doing it online.

As the type who downvotes almost every "dumb fuck!!" type comment, genuinely, thank you for taking the time to suppress the urge and be more constructive. I wish more people would do that.

!upliftingnews@lemmy.world, just do not check the comments because it is often full of doomer comments (even if true, depressing and counter to the purpose of uplifting news). Bad Law Repealed? Comments have stuff like "Bad Law existed in the first place because the cruelty is the point." Solution to Problem Found? "Fuck whoever caused the problem." Emphasizing the negative, not what I'm looking for. (It is on topic and not being awful to another user so I do not downvote, but I sure don't like it.) Stick to the article linked if you want to be uplifted instead of quickly taken down by the comments.

What kind of news gets posted here? I'm still trying to keep my feed clear of depressing things, and "wildfire claims lives" or "murder happened," while nonpolitical, is still essentially blared at me 24/7 in the rest of my life. However I do appreciate this idea!

Also, have you posted to !newcommunities@lemmy.world yet?

I really liked the idea of LongReads but never subbed because most of the posts were depressing long reads.

Checked now and I'm happy to see that alongside peoples' insurance getting cut off, something about Trump, and something about abortion, there's articles about knots and Guitar Hero.

I get this is about mainstream social media and the Fediverse is not mainstream, but I still find it funny to have a community titled "antisocialmedia" on… well… social media.

Nah, I appreciate your answer to the question. Don't worry. I enjoy reading about other peoples' workflows.

I was curious why you had one red-icon account and one blue-icon account, now I know!

As far as I know, there is no way to link to a specific comment in a way that keeps any user on their own instance, only a way to link communities like that. Things might have changed since I last checked.

Curious how specifically they are different, other than them just being different.

At least from the sidebar,

Productivity, self-help, mindfulness, memory-keeping, creativity, project management or any other purpose.

In my opinion most of this overlaps with PKMS. What things belong in a PKMS that don't go in a journal and vice versa?

Already looked into Zettelkasten awhile ago. Seems cool but I am getting by just fine, connecting different topics together without one. I am sure I've missed some potential connections, but I'm not an academic and feel I have a good enough understanding of the things in my PKMS that it's not so essential I maximize connections with a Zettelkasten—especially because there'd be a cost to redoing my PKMS that way, and I think my own neurodivergent brain just Doesn't Work That Way. Thanks for the suggestion though, hope an onlooker benefits

Sorry if I came off as aggressive or "you are WRONG," definitely meant this more as discussion. I was just spitballing thoughts. Thanks for sharing how you do it, and what differentiates your PKMS from your journal :)

I think the organization thing, indexed vs not, might be a tendency but it definitely would not define PKMS vs journal, as I can imagine some people have very neatly indexed journals with a table of contents page and every page gets tossed on the table of contents once it gains contents.

I do think intention has to do with it. Indexing knowledge for future you, or just getting out personal thoughts for now to help you deal with them? Although that does not feel good enough right now, because some people also put things they think they'll care about later in their journal, and some people review entries to try to figure out tendencies in their moods and habits, also known as they put down today's knowledge for review later which sounds like a PKMS thing…