Share some activities you've been interested in doing but couldn't do because you're closeted.

Transmasc, Transfem, Nonbinary, and Gender Non-Conforming answers are all welcome and encouraged here.

So I dealt with a nasty person a few days ago and one of the things this person did was calling people pick-mes while accusing them of being transphobic. The problem is I have no idea what this word or phrase means. I know it isn't good but I don't really understand how it relates to someone other than somehow being connected or associated with transphobia, and also likely being insulting.

Decided to set up this community as well as !truscum@lemmy.blahaj.zone because I know that in the future transmedicalists might want to try setting up here. Transmedicalism is one of the most toxic forms of gatekeeping plaguing the trans community, they actively invalidate people based on "not being trans enough", they constantly attack NonBinary and Xenogender people claiming that they're "just cis and want to feel special". I've also seen them attack GNC people claiming that they're "appropriating the trans experience".

Obviously these people are very toxic and have no place in Blahaj.zone and probably the trans and queer community as a whole. That's why I have made these comms as placeholders to ensure that they can't just set up a space here.

I would be open to turning either of these communities into support communities for people to discuss being hurt by or the damaging aspects of transmedicalism. Please let me know if that seems like a good idea, if not I'm sure someone can always make a dedicated community for that purpose (I'll put a redirect there in the description if that happens).

Disclaimer, if anyone fights or posts toxic shit in the comments, (especially transmedicalists) I will just lock the thread and move on, be respectful.

I'm just wondering since some person on Mastodon said it, (almost certainly a troll due to their toxic behavior) and I was wondering what it actually means or if it's something that is just made up. I tried searching on Google and there weren't really any meaningful results, just people talking about and complaining about it.

So if anyone has any information on this it would be great if you shared it. Thanks

Meme Text:

Reminder

Being an Egg doesn't mean you'll inevitably come out as trans - it means you're taking some time to figure yourself out, regardless of the result. Trans or cis, binary or nonbinary, gender conforming or not you're always welcome here!

-------------------------------------------------------------------- My commentary:

I saw this meme a while back and really liked it. I thought after the extremely turbulent events recently it would be a good idea to post this as a reminder for us all to remember what's important, and to respect each other both before and after the questioning process, regardless of how people identify afterwards.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/8128267

> Text: "Visualizing in the mirror the man i want t obecome" > > In the mirror is an Androgynous looking cat character wearing fem clothes

Text: "Visualizing in the mirror the man i want t obecome"

In the mirror is an Androgynous looking cat character wearing fem clothes

cross-posted from: https://sopuli.xyz/post/6893472

> cross-posted from: https://sopuli.xyz/post/6893359 > >

A community for SFW discussion about the femboy experience. Links:

• /c/feminineboys
• !feminineboys@lemmy.blahaj.zone

One thing I get a lot as an Isogender is people who are confused about what it means or who think it's just trans. I'm going to break down what it means, why we are not trans, or cis for that matter, while also addressing some of the arguments brought up about us (these are arguments I and others have recieved on this).

------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ What does it mean to be Isogender?

Isogender is a gender modality which falls outside of the cis and trans umbrellas, it exists as its own thing. Simply put Isogender is neither cis nor trans. You might be wondering how does that work exactly if cis=AGAB and trans≠AGAB? Well it's slightly different for different people but one explanation I've heard is that AGAB is Irrelevant to people who identify as Isogender.

Personally the way that cis and trans are worded or described these days isn't great in my opinion as it seems to try and remove other options outside of the two. It enforces a binary, under those strict definitions one can either be Cis or Trans with no clear path In-between or neither.

------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ "Isogender is 'technically' trans then because it isn't cis, you're just choosing not to Identify as trans"

Nope it isn't, it is neither cis nor trans, the reason is that we identify as neither. It's based on the idea that the way we identify is valid and determines who we are. Arguing technicality when it comes to a person's identity is very invalidating, as if to say they are wrong about how they identify without directly saying they're wrong.

----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Isogender doesn't exist, you're in denial about being trans bc Internalized Transphobia"

Umm... No. If it didn't exist it wouldn't have been coined and it wouldn't have multiple Wiki pages about it. People are free to identify how they feel is comfortable, an trying to argue that their identity or reasons for not identifying as trans aren't valid and that they have transphobia isn't respecting their identity, it's attempting to change their mind by telling them that it is bad or wrong to not identify as trans, or to not feel comfortable identifying as trans.

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "It's important to identify as trans even if you are Non-Binary to show that transgender is more than transsexual"

Yeah... No, it's important to identify the way that feels comfortable and correct for you. Gender identities are for the person identifying, not anyone else. You should not, nor should you be expected to identify a particular way for someone else. If it feels right to identify as trans then you can, if it doesn't than you don't have to, that's like the whole point of Isogender and other gender modalities, having options outside of the dichotomy.

---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "Anyone without Gender Dysphoria is just Cis and wants attention"

Transmedicalism will not be tolerated here under Rule 3 and Rule 4, there is no debate here, transmedicalism is a very hostile and harmful form of gatekeeping. People's identities are Valid and should be respected, transmedicalism fights against that, so it should be treated as the form of Bigotry that it is.

------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Conclusion

While this may not have covered all basis I did get to touch on what Isogender is, as well as some of the misconceptions and also some of the extremely harmful arguments related to it, and hopefully addressed them so we will not see them posted here out of Ignorance.

I will leave this post up in case people would like to add anything else, or engage in constructive criticism but if there is any significant hostility or attacks the comments may be locked.

[IMAGE DESCRIPTION] drowning kid + skeleton Meme

In the top panel a mother and her kids are together in a swimming pool. The mother with text "egg_irl" is holding up her daughter with the text "transfems" over her. Meanwhile her son is drowning while she doesn't notice him with the text "transmascs" over him.

In the bottom Panel a skeleton is chained to a chair at the bottom of the ocean with the text "NonBinary/Genderqueer", "Genderfluid", and "Agender" over it. Each label is colored in the colors of their own Flags respectively.

[END OF IMAGE DESCRIPTION]

context: Back on the original egg_irl subreddit it was common for there to be a disproportionate amount of transfem memes versus the others and a lot of them forgot to flair as [CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem] when needed and also a few were a bit targeting towards transmascs and masculine enbies i.e.

or

. Some people even started saying Egg_irl is specifically a women's space and not a trans space in general.