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They Came in the Night
  • Feeding deer is illegal in some places. In Pennsylvania it's illegal because of the wasting disease that is going through the population. You'd be doing the deer a favor if you called the game warden and reported if it is illegal in your area.

  • What communities or similar did you appreciate the moderation of and why?
  • I appreciate not having trolls around but that is very hard to define. Some trolling is harmless and some are there is intentionally start flame wars. Its the flame war crap that makes it impossible to have genuine conversations.

    And "don't be a dick" is always a good one.

  • 3rd year in university and getting nowhere. What should I do?
  • Pick something and go with it. Something in ballpark of what you think you want to go for. It may not be the right choice but you'll have a degree and you can work on a second if you really have or take some certifications. But what's important is that you make a decision. Even if that decision is to take a year off and think about it, that's a decision.

  • How should I feel about a dying parent who's worthless?
  • I had a parent who was terrible. It really sucked because out of my siblings I was the one who was really willing and able to deal with the end of life bullshit. She was mentally and emotionally abusive throughout my life. I did my best to be fair and make sure she was treated with dignity. I think any human being deserves that. But I couldn't bring myself to tell her I loved her when she said it to me towards the end. I wasn't angry towards her or anything. I just tried to deal with it without emotion. My brother did help handle a lot of interaction with her. I'm very thankful he was there with me.

    I'll be honest, I am glad she is gone. I stressed out over her and things she would do. I couldn't have made the future choices I did if she was still around. Everyone in my family is better off and their lives are better because she is gone. I think feeling bad for their suffering means that you are human and have empathy. I think back still, at times, and feel for her. I think about the things in her life that made her the way that she was. It also fucked me up for a while after my child was born because it made me think of the better times with my mother when I was young. Still does sometimes. But she is gone now. It's okay to mourn that person so you can move on. You are mourning the good things about the person, and maybe even the bad. To move on past the things that fuck with us, sometimes we have to forgive because it is what is best for ourselves. I at least know I will never have to endure the suffering she inflicted upon me through her abuse again. For that I am greatful.

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    What would it take for you to stop using the internet or go minimalist on the usage?
  • I stopped using all social media besides Lemmy. In part I realized how much of it is used by influencers and companies to sell shit and it's become worthless. On top of that, when I use Facebook I can barely find actual pictures when I attempt to catch up with family by looking at their pages. Once in a while I make an attempt then give up when all the bullshit gets crammed down my throat. The only reason why my Facebook still exists is the use the messenger to keep in touch with family that way.

    I remember using Twitter to actually keep in touch with my gaming friends. Then they started with the algorithms. I used to use Tweetcaster. I stopped using Twitter entirely once that happened because it used to bypass those algorithms and the ads. I stopped using Reddit when Reddit is Fun went down.

    Now I just scroll Lemmy. Even that is limited because of all the depressing news. Sometimes I get frustrated by the 15 reposts of the same article and I get tired of having to interact with them to get them to go away. I just don't get the same reward I used to get when I looked through posts or scrolled through tweets of friends once upon a time. I'm just tired of the enshittification.

  • I don't really know how to deal with coworkers who emotionally dump their issues on me
  • I've had women do this to me with their crazy, fucked up life and issues. The last one I remember was a coworker that I was standing in line with at a food truck. She just started talking about the mountain of medications she had and the health conditions that went with it. I don't remember specifically what prompted it but it was completely unrelated and she intentionally steered the conversation to the subject. I was just like "uh huh" and as soon as I got my food I GTFO and avoided her until she got fired. I vaguely remember she had the biggest fucking melt down I've ever seen when they fired her. People heard her crying and wailing through the conference room door.

  • When was the last time you felt helpless in life?
  • Lately I've felt helpless in that I can't seem to get out of this rut. Other times in my life that I can think of was when I was getting paid minimum wage and couldn't pay the debt I was dumb and racked up many years ago. Another time was when I was in an abusive relationship that I didn't understand that I could end.

    I'm sure there are many others but those stand out to me at the moment.

  • Bungie Reveals ‘Destiny 2’ Is Being Crippled By DDoS Attacks
    www.forbes.com Bungie Reveals ‘Destiny 2’ Is Being Crippled By DDoS Attacks

    Destiny 2 was barely playable at all yesterday after weekly reset, thanks to a number of error codes being spat at players during login or travel.

    Bungie Reveals ‘Destiny 2’ Is Being Crippled By DDoS Attacks

    Destiny 2 was barely playable at all yesterday after weekly reset, thanks to a number of error codes being spat at players during login or travel. By evening, I couldn’t play at all, loading into empty activities that would promptly kick me out after a minute or two.

    Bungie has now confirmed that these instability issues have nothing to do with the recent weapon superbug that they are in the middle of fixing, where some perks have been disabled as they press toward a larger solution. Bungie has in fact revealed these current attacks on Destiny 2 are the result of outside DDoSing. Here’s what the BungieHelp account said late yesterday:

    "Over the past couple of days, we've seen a spike in error codes and disconnects. The team has confirmed that these error codes are not related to the planned fixes rolling out for the recent crafting issue and are instead a result of DDoS attacks. While we typically don't confirm…"

    In the tweet, Bungie says that this has happened before, but normally they would not comment on it, as that can just aid and embolden the perpetrators. This time, they’re doing it because they didn’t want people to assume it was because of the ongoing major bug fix.

    There have indeed been instances in the past when Destiny 2 was suffering from huge server issues where I was told it was in fact a DDoS attack, but Bungie couldn’t say anything due to the reasons above. But it’s a frustrating situation given that of course, the wider community will assume it’s Bungie’s fault (and I mean, sometimes it is just normal server problems) instead of an active attack. Though now in the future perhaps there will be a little more room for interpretation, given that this has happened before, it’s happening now, and it will happen again.

    Bungie has been incredibly litigious as of late when it comes to people impacting the game or its community. They have sued and won judgements against several large-scale cheatmakers. They went after someone who issued false YouTube takedown notices. They were awarded a judgement against someone who terrorized their former community manager and his wife.

    It stands to reason they may take similar action against a DDoSer, but finding them may be a tall order. They are doing way, way more active damage to the game than some of these other cases, but it’s notoriously difficult to hunt someone like this down. It has happened in the past, but rarely, if ever, for something like going after a video game’s servers. I’m sure Bungie would absolutely seek damages or criminal charges here, if it were possible. We’ll see what happens.

    For now, the game seems to be working okay as of this morning, but it’s unclear if the attacks have ceased altogether. My heart goes out to every “fix things” team at Bungie between these attacks and the ongoing bug fixes for the wildest glitch in game history. Hell of a week (Lemon, it’s Wednesday).

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