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‘We claim her, end of story’: Buffy Sainte-Marie’s Piapot family hurt by allegations
  • I don’t know if I agree with you here. This isn’t as petty as you seem to feel it is. The cultural significance of her impersonation is big and it’s definitely news worthy. News is more than stabbings and explosions.

  • ‘We claim her, end of story’: Buffy Sainte-Marie’s Piapot family hurt by allegations
  • This whole scandal has blown my Canadian mind more than anything I can remember. She has done an impressive job of bringing attention to First Nations people, and indigenous people in Canada overall, her Piapot family clearly loves and claims her. BUT, she’s also literally a colonizing liar who has benefitted off the struggle of our indigenous people. It turns out she wasn’t an advocate at all but an identity thief. I feel like everything I ever knew was a lie. Next someone’s going to tell me stompin’ Tom kept women chained up in his basement. Frig.

  • How do I know if my stomach/abdomen distension is temporary or I'm just a little fat? It feels like a baloon/lot of empty space
  • Please listen to me - stomach distension should ALWAYS be checked by a medical professional. One of my kids had slightly distended stomach which we attributed to a big rib cage and still needing to grow into his bigger frame.

    It was a mature teratoma weighing over 20lbs

    He had a physical with no issues just three days before we visited the ER for stomach pain. ER found it immediately when they noted the stomach distension during his exam and did scans to find out why.

    Maybe it’s nothing. Maybe it’s gas. But also maybe you devoured your twin in the womb and he’s back for revenge.

    Please see a doctor and ask for an ultrasound at the very least.

  • If I'm over 25, is it still too late for me to "learn" French or can I just watch French sitcoms for like a year and be up-to-speed?
  • I would say you probably won’t have as much success just listening to something than you would communicating back, no matter how much you immerse yourself. My spoken French is godawful, but my comprehension is good so I can follow along with tv shows and such, but my communication doesn’t improve much as there is no back and forth.

  • Applications for personal use eviction are up 77% in Toronto, worrying advocates
  • The one factor they always neglect to discuss in this housing crisis is that … well, we are in a housing crisis. That means there is a substantial number of these evictions that are actually valid (granted there are also a lot of shit, scumbag landlords). But we all know someone struggling right now for housing. If you’re a boomer with an extra property, you probably also have a kid, or a nephew/niece or other younger person/family who is struggling with housing, and they need a place to stay, and they want to move in to these properties. This will only get worse as housing becomes less affordable.

    I’m not saying this is the only reason, but it certainly contributes to the spike we are seeing in overall applications.

  • How do empty nesters deal with over cooking?
  • I had to work on this issue. I used to massively overcook. My house was always the place people just showed up. I had two kids, friends, family, so I was constantly ready to feed an army. Now one is out of the house, the other isn’t home most of the time and husband works evenings. We don’t have company like we used to before Covid, so unannounced guests happen rarely.

    I have to be conscious at all times about what I’m cooking. First I had to admit that my perception of how much food I needed was just wrong and could not be trusted. I started using recipes - even for things I know how to make- purely to reference serving sizes. And when all else failed, however much I felt I needed to make, I’d just make half of that

    It took some practice but now I make reasonable sized meals and have few leftovers.

  • Is the housing crisis pricing out the skilled newcomers Canada wants to attract?
  • 5% after 20 years of stagnated wages is still unimpressive if you ask me. And those wages have gone up because workers just won’t work for less. But immigrants will. The government gets their tax dollars.

    Obviously it’s more complex but the housing crises, wages, inflation, it’s all connected and relative to each other. We are so screwed

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    Rule 1. No party pooping
  • I do not poop at parties. Ever. I am completely traumatized by a house party I went to when I was 18 or 19 where I used the bathroom after someone had dropped a massive deuce and not flushed. So of course I flushed before I went - and the toilet overflowed and I had to run out and find my friends parents in a sea of about a hundred people and tell them what happened.

    You know damned well everyone thought I had done it.

    Never got to poop. Never tried to poop at a party again. I’m 45. I’ll hold it until I die before I go through that again.

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  • Maybe because they’re not delusional about the state of the world we live in that these right wing nut jobs seem to be hell-bent on making worse until we’re all living in a post-apocalyptic Gillead. I’m fucking depressed too.

  • Buying neices and nephews Christmas presents?
  • Money. They like money. Everyone can use money. I have a nephew who is 29 years old - he came into the family at 13 and so wasn’t really part of the whole gift/celebration thing and didn’t visit with our family much. But he was still a kid and I wanted him to feel like someone was thinking about him on holidays. Now he’s got a wife and a baby and he’s a full ass adult and I don’t care. I still give him $50 on his birthday and Xmas. Because I still love him. Maybe he uses it to gas up his car. Maybe he uses it for diapers. Maybe he buys himself something with it - doesn’t matter. My nieces and nephews always get a present from me no matter their age, but after 13, everyone likes money.

  • Is the housing crisis pricing out the skilled newcomers Canada wants to attract?
  • Yes but they don’t find out until they get here and then they’re fucked. If these people knew how high the cost of living here really was compared to potential income they wouldn’t immigrate. So we just keep a bait and switch happening with these poor bastards.

    Not to mention that when the government says we need immigration, what they mean is we need uninformed people to come and accept lower wage jobs to keep incomes from rising. We don’t have holes in our employment. We have holes in fair pay employment. So instead of paying someone a fair increase annually, we just don’t, and find someone to fill that spot for cheaper instead.

  • Why, as a male, when emotionally do I only feel accepted by women but not by men?
  • Men show emotions all the time. The problem is that the only “acceptable” emotion is anger or resentment. People of any gender validate other peoples feelings based on their own experiences. Because women’s emotions are invalidated as weak or useless, women tend to be more sympathetic to others who experience that same invalidation.

  • CNN Fact-Checker Daniel Dale Takes On Biden Impeachment Point By Point: ‘None of This Evidence Has Appeared’
  • I think the downfall of legitimate news was inevitable. When CNN went 24 hours there was a lot of “how can they possibly find enough news to fill all that time?” And it was a legitimate question. The answer is that they can’t. So they manufacture things instead- opinion pieces that sound mysteriously like fact news, panels sitting around supposing what something could mean, interpreting events instead of factual explanations. It became a 24 gossipy talk show. And then even regular regional news followed suit. I don’t even bother to watch the news anymore, because it’s not news. It’s a bunch of jabbering assholes just making noises with their faces.

  • I don’t think proposing at someone’s wedding is always a bad thing

    Ok. Hear me out.

    Disclaimer - proposing at someone’s wedding or announcing a pregnancy at someone else’s event, if you don’t have the explicit permission of the hosts, is never ok.

    I would have been overjoyed if someone got engaged at my wedding. I would have been so insanely happy if someone had announced their pregnancy at my baby shower. I give zero fucks about having to be the centre of attention and like, it was MY wedding and my shower, so it’s right in the title that it’s all about me. In fact, just as I’m flattered to be asked to be in a bridal party, I’d be flattered as fuck if someone picked my event to announce something huge- I would feel extra included in their massive life moment. I would feel like I was important to them. My ego would be purring that they were going to have my event be part of their story forever.

    A wedding is your special day, yes, and ultimately what the bride and groom wants is what should happen-period. But weddings are also about family and friends. The people you invite were a part of your life before you met and fell in love, and will be there watching your marriage grow. And you will be there in the same way in their lives. A wedding is like a family reunion. It makes sense that when you’re celebrating, you should celebrate all the things while you all have a chance to be together.

    I think it would be better to just always ask first, respect the answer, whatever it may be. Don’t be a psycho and just do a surprise or do it when the host says no. But the blanket opinion that it’s tacky or rude and never ok, I just don’t agree.

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    Help me find the words to explain my husband’s ignorant behaviour

    I’m getting tired of being the household beast of burden. Last night I decided to try and make just ONE damned chore in the house equitable. I assigned one kid to empty the dishwasher, the other to fill it, and my husband to wash whatever large items wouldn’t fit in the dishwasher. We discussed it. He agreed it was fair. I HATE a dirty kitchen and can’t cook when it’s filthy and I’m tired of doing all the cleanup before slaving away at the stove and then repeating.

    Spoiler: he did not wash the dishes. He played video games and then went to bed. I washed them this morning.

    I was mildly annoyed (read this happens constantly so I’m used to it) and told him just now that since I washed those dishes, could he please put them away. He’s doing that now, but his response has me fucking fuming.

    “Why wouldn’t you just wait until I washed them? Why did you HAVE to do the dishes just to make me feel bad about it?”

    I was mildly annoyed before and now I’m just fucking furious. He has no idea why I would even consider that manipulative. I’m so mad right now I can’t even find the words to productively explain to him why that statement was so offside.

    Help me, sisters. I can’t even find the words.

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    Why does “come here” bother me so much?

    Ok, I have no idea why this bothers me and I don’t even know what to call it. My husband is a “come here” guy. Something he thinks is interesting and wants to show me - hey, come here! Nuclear apocalypse - hey, come here! Why the hell wont he just tell me why he wants me to get up, trudge to wherever he is, so that he can reveal the surprise like some sort of performative art ? I never know if it’s going to be legitimate, a disaster, or something stupid. The walk to wherever he is is insanely stressful because the whole time I’m running through all possible horrible scenarios (we’ve had a lot of issues at the house lately so I never know if I’m going to find water in the basement or raccoons in the attic or a hole in my foundation, or just him looking at a funny cat video). I’d rather he say “hey, babe, something is happening wherever/whatever, come see this.” Instead I have to have the whole performance and reveal and I fucking hate it. Anyone else know what I’m talking about or am I just mental ?

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