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  • This all rings incredibly familiar to me. I was diagnosed a couple of years ago, mid 30s. Like you, I didn't want to be labelled, I was skeptical of medication, of being judged or ostracised.

    But the liberation of learning that I wasn't broken, wasn't useless and lazy, that there was a reason for all of the things tearing me apart every day, was indescribable. Just getting the diagnosis did so much for my outlook and approach to life.

    And the meds. I took the first baby dose and it was like the sun came out for the first time in 30 years. They didn't make me 'normal', didn't take away any part of my 'self', it was more like opening valves in my mind which had never been more than a quarter open before. Ever drive a car with a couple of cylinders not firing? Get those sparkplugs replaced and see what it does. Full throttle is amazing.

    I don't tell people I have a diagnosis unless I think it's relevant. But I can be more honest and open about my peculiarities than I could before - and noone cares! Diagnosis, medication, these are between you and your doctor. But if it gives you the freedom to live the way you want, it's all worth it.

  • exercise for us?
  • Oh and as mentioned below, rock climbing/bouldering is fucking great. Go hang out at a gamified problem solving gym and you will exercise til you wish you could make yourself stop.

  • exercise for us?
  • My method for hacking my brain is wakeup exercise. Finding a short exercise which I can do faster than I can talk myself out of it. I started with 5 pushups. That's all. A tiny number, 10 sec exercise which I do as I get out of bed in the morning.

    The important part is not to "push the envelope" or whatever. The amount of exercise should be small enough that it doesn't bother you. And only do the exercise today. Don't think about yesterday, don't think about tomorrow. You only have to exercise once. Today. Easy. 10sec, 30sec, whatever. Then move onto whatever weird and cool shit you wanna do with the rest of your day knowing that you have exercised.

    I feel like I'm cheating, cos it's so simple yet so effective. I now do a lot more than 5 pushups, but the concept hasn't changed.

  • Charlie bit my finger
  • Neo-liberal is a political ideology based around free-market capitalism. Reagan and Thatcher are good examples. Pretty right wing economically, theoretically socially agnostic, but experience shows that neo-libs will happily leverage bigotry to fulfil their policy goals.

    Libs in this meme comes from a leftist perspective. Anyone who supports capitalist society or ideology is considered at a minimum to be a liberal.

  • Questions about Nextcloud
  • I've been running a NC server for a couple of years now.

    1. This is more complicated than it sounds - if you leave the server in sleep mode it may be possible to wake it with a "magic packet" ping, which comes with a new layer of complexity if you want it to be automated. I gave up in the end and just leave mine running - the little power draw to keep the little PC on seemed worth the trouble saved.
    2. You can access it from anywhere if you have the server open to the internet. ( ie port forwarding through your router) . This gives you just a raw IP address on the open-side ( http://123.456.12.34 for example) which has all sorts of problems from technical to security: many services won't work with just an IP address, and without https protocol your connection is vulnerable to malicious activity. I started with just a raw IP address, but after some time shelled out for a domain name (10EUR/yr). This allowed me to access all services like music streaming, and to install security certs for proper https.

    It sounds like a lot, but you can incrementally upgrade your system step by step and learn as you go.

  • Advice on sharing your diagnosis with others
  • Absolutely. I casually drop symptoms and behaviours into conversation all the time with no indication it is anything other than "just the way I am". Noone ever blinks an eye.

    Telling them I eat a bucket of pseudo-amph every day just so I remember to eat my lunch would be something else.

  • Advice on sharing your diagnosis with others
  • This is a very subjective and personal choice - I have only shared with select friends and family members - those I trust to be respectful. I have not told my work/colleagues, because I don't think it's relevant to them. If that changes, I may change my mind. Most importantly, share it when and where you are comfortable. It's your truth, don't feel pressured to share for the reasons or interests of others.

  • F-Droid - Free and Open Source Android App Repository
  • The latest versions of Aurora store have a setting to automatically search in the browser which evades the playstore-side rate limiting. It's a little annoying, but that's on playstore, not aurora.

  • Laundry to landscape greywater system perfect splitter
  • The round frame is the basin? I'm not sure I understand your setup, but that's OK.

    The basic idea is, water flow occurs due to pressure difference. To force the water to multiple exits, you need pressure. The easiest way to achieve this is to use a large-diameter pipe as the main feed, then place small-diameter outlet pipes along it.

    If you have an open exit like in your picture, the pressure will be lost.

  • Laundry to landscape greywater system perfect splitter
  • You're not wrong - the T-joint will not split the water 50-50 under normal conditions. The water will flow where it can. If you want to ensure flow through all outlets, the outlet ( ie each branch/exit) pipes should be significantly smaller than the main pipe.

    This way, your main pipe will fill with water faster than the smaller outlets release it, and all outlets will receive water.

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