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Singlehood is on the rise around the world. New evidence suggests many single people are choosing to remain single and living happy lives.
  • All these comments about, "oh, but they just gave up or are socially incompetent". I'm in a happy relationship, but I also know that's not an easy find and can see the appeal of wanting to be single. All the freedom your granted when your single is a huge draw. I've missed out on those freedoms because I went into a long term relationship early in life and I feel like I would struggle if I were thrown into it suddenly. I'm happy for those who chose to be single and are happy for it. Good for them.

  • Ah Bernie, what could have been...
  • What happened with Hillary is that idiots decided to vote third party for a planted candidate and fucked everything up. Dividing progressive votes means a loss for progressives in every case. You will be part of the problem when Trump gets reelected and dismantles democracy. That will be the end of voting and the reemergence of mass suffrage. Oh and I forgot, climate change will continue to get worse and people will start getting sick because Trump has already promised to end climate/pollution regulations. Equal rights will be stripped and slavery will be brought back even for white people because, chances are, minimum wage will be wiped out. This dude plans to do so much damage if/when he gets back in office.

  • New To Being Trans W/ A Few Questions
  • I'll give it a shot in hopes that it'll work. I've been told by my therapist I don't have the feminine speech patterns already so we'll see if it helps. If I remember, I'll come back to say whether it helped or not. Thank you =)

  • New To Being Trans W/ A Few Questions
  • Here's my concern about voice training. I'm not going on HRT so I won't be getting the vocal deepening from that so I don't know how much of a difference the voice training would be. That's why I was aiming for the surgery.

  • Would you mind helping me understand the reality of trans life?
  • Yes I do feel it's necessary, but I'm someone who's coming from being "well-endowed". I live with the literal weight of my birth gender. That plus having people say she/her because I sound like a girl when I'm a gamer and streamer is a constant reminder of it. It weighs on me and I can't help feeling like I need to push for that change. It's a need, not a want for me. For me, the surgeries would make a major difference in how I feel mentally and physically. Imagine being a cis-man with a feminine voice and excessively large man boobs. Would you want to have that corrected or would you put up with it? That's what it's like.

    (If it didn't come through, part of this is light hearted)

  • Would you mind helping me understand the reality of trans life?
  • Scientists are doing research into why we feel this way and are actually discovering connections from birth, but I don't know that much about it yet so I'll leave those explanations to others who have read the study. For now, here's my experience with it.

    For me, I've hated my body and how I've looked since I was in high school. I grew up being brainwashed by old movies and tv shows that separated sexes and that made it seem like I had to try to be feminine and to look pretty at all times and try to fit the gender norms. I hated everything about being female and I've tried everything to love myself as AFAB, but none of it worked. I'm 32 and the years since I entered high school have been rough and have put me through so much depression, suicidal tendencies, and panic attacks. I only decided last year that I'm finally taking that step that I hinted at in high school. I like things made for guys and I prefer to hang with guys and I've always leaned in that direction and have been called a tomboy many times. I've never fit in with women or felt any real connection to being female. I feel so much better already just with the hair and the changes in my thinking and I haven't gotten my surgeries yet. It was crazy the difference just switching to seeing myself as male has made on my mental well being. I actually smile when I see myself in the mirror now.

  • New To Being Trans W/ A Few Questions
  • I haven't talked to a doctor about it, but I've already been told I have heart murmurs by my primary doctor. I'd prefer not to take a risk that could make heart disease and heart problems more likely for me. My mom already struggles with heart related issues and I'd prefer not taking that risk after seeing what she goes through. I'm settled on not taking it for those reasons. I appreciate the concern though.

    Thank you so much for the advice! I'll make a note of it for my surgeries. The advice should be helpful for both ^^

  • New To Being Trans W/ A Few Questions

    Hi, I'm Zeke. I'm 32 and last year I finally came to the conclusion that I am transmasc after years of being unhappy with who I was and how I looked. I've done so much research into it, but I'm still left with questions. First off, I should say that I have opted not to do HRT. HRT has too many health risks that I can't take due to heart related issues that run in my family. It's not worth that risk to me. So I'm trying a different route.

    I've decided to go the route of surgery w/ changes to how I dress and how I get my hair cut. I've lost about 18.6lbs out of 25lbs to get my top surgery and so far it has been really good for me health wise and affirming wise. I'm so close to the first step and I can't wait for the positive effects especially since my bust size causes physical discomfort and shortness of breath so it's a two in one benefit. My questions for this one is "Does silicone gel work better than lotion for scars?" and "Are you comfortable being topless for swimming/beach visits?"

    Now here's where I most uncomfortable because I've heard of people being negative about it, but I plan to get vocal surgery to deepen my voice. Here's where my questions come in. Has anyone else gotten this surgery? If so, what's it like and what were your experiences with recovery? How different has it made your voice?

    I just wonder if others have chosen the surgical route. I don't have anyone or anywhere else to ask these questions so I figured I'd drop them here. Thank you for any answers!

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