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Anon and Chad at the gym
  • Boys used to come up to me in the gym and try to flirt by telling me that I'm doing my lifts wrong. I've been lifting for years and it used to make me so mad. Everything changed during covid tho and now no one talks to anyone else in the gym. It's nice ig but my ego misses the casual flirting 😔

  • Amazon warns workers who don’t return to the office will have a harder time getting promoted
  • I don't have any interest in getting promoted again. I was at my current job for 6 months when they promoted me to the last real IC level. The only thing i gain from here is more responsibility. All this is going to do is rot Amazon's culture as underperformers get promoted and excellent engineers become content to coast in the background.

  • Is it an unspoken truth that everyone has a crush on their friends?
  • If i have a crush on any of my friends then i just sleep with them. My gf and i are ENM, and we talk about our friend crushes openly. But the truth is, I've got more of a desire to have friends who i don't have any sexual tension with recently. I've gotten a bit sad with people wanting more of my attention when i don't have any left to give. My gf and i meet each other's needs for physical intimacy pretty well. I mostly just want more masc bros to do bro stuff with.

  • Anon is in a relationship
  • The only reason antibiotic resistant germs are different than regular germs is that antibiotics don't work on them, which doesn't matter if you don't use antibiotics! 😆

    Her reasons are more vague and appeal-to-nature-y. But you do raise a good point.

  • Anon is in a relationship
  • Relatable. I love a girl like this. It's exhausting and it's slowly impacted my own sanity, but it's not her fault. It's mainly about germs with her. She gets really upset if we don't wash our hands every 15 minutes or so. But at the same time, she's afraid of antibiotics.

  • Transgender rights are under attack. But trans people 'just want to thrive and survive.'
  • I don't think you're understanding my point. Trans-ness is, for me, defined by gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria, by its very definition, is the pain i experience by not looking like a cis woman. Visibility is not a thing i want to celebrate. Visibility is the affliction.

    Can everyone be stealth? No, absolutely not, and being trans should be normalized. But i still feel very uncomfortable with my debilitating endocrine disorder being used as a point of pride, in the same way gay pride is.

    I'm gay, and I'm out and proud of that. I love being visibly gay. But being trans is different because it's not a thing i want to be.

  • Transgender rights are under attack. But trans people 'just want to thrive and survive.'
  • So that trans youth growing up see trans adults in their community

    When i was a teenager back in the early 00s, i went to a trans support group. It largely consisted of older transitioners, age 50+, who were not living good lives, through no fault of their own. But it was a very dark experience for me. I expected that my life would play out like theirs, and i would join the 41% club. I never thought that I'd get to experience just being a regular girl, and that part still seems surreal a decade later.

    This is a common experience for young trans people seeking support. This is "trans visibility" and it harmed me profoundly. What would've been really nice back then were successful role models who make their trans-ness an incidental detail. We have those now, and they're not what I'd call "visible" to cis people, although they don't hide who they are.

    so that trans adults see older trans people.

    I'm still waiting to find older rolemodels. Most of us are really sad when we get older. I don't know how similar this is to the general lgbt population, but I'm concerned. My goal is to build a little family, and then just live a quiet life and keep each other close.

  • Is jogging on sidewalks harder on joints than if one jogged on dirt?
  • The strongest indicator that shoes will work for you, according to the research is... Do they feel good? I'd suggest going to a running store and trying on different brands and jogging around the store. Once you find a comfy pair, you probably chose well.

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    The death of ownership: Companies are taking away your ability to actually own the stuff you buy
  • That was my immediate thought. This is obviously the output of an LLM.

    Prompt: "list the ways the 1% (or the most affluent and powerful segment of society) is actively preventing true ownership of the things we buy"

  • Is jogging on sidewalks harder on joints than if one jogged on dirt?
  • All the people saying "yes" are incorrect. Running on pavement and running on trails exert different strains on the body, but not less. The tendency in road runners is to end up with tibial stress fractures, and in trail runners it is metatarsal stress fractures, but the injury rates are similar. Trail running requires stronger stabilizer muscles (primarily gluteus medius) to maintain knee health in the long term, but this is a problem for both as well.

    Use good shoes, strength train your gluteus medius and calves, do most of your miles at an easy pace, and you'll be running for decades, regardless of your chosen surface. You might even change it up and do both!

    (My credentials are that i am an ultramarathoner and have run half a dozen races between 26.2 and 50 miles, on pavement and trail, and i have been coached by a professional ultra runner for several seasons.)

  • Transgender rights are under attack. But trans people 'just want to thrive and survive.'
  • "We can disappear into the world and continue to live in the shadows," he says. "But ultimately, that's not how it's supposed to be."

    Ugh. I really wish people would quit saying this. I don't want "visibility." "Trans visibility" feels like an insult. I want to be invisible, and anything less is torment. Some people will never pass as the gender they identify with, but for them to prescribe their feelings on all of us is not fair.

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