grysbok @ grysbok @lemmy.sdf.org

I'm a systems librarian in an academic library. I moved over the Lemmy afte

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I get paid every 2 weeks, so slightly more often than twice a month. The twice a year "extra" paychecks go straight into savings because they're not part of my monthly budget. It's a government job in the USA.

Thanks and I'm glad you're on a similar journey. Well, not glad you had to start the journey, but glad you're progressing on it.

I have grief for the mother I didn't have, but it's ok.

Yeah. I started therapy for "anger management" (I got so frustrated at unmet needs that I bent a fork in half at a restaurant, which caused my still-boyfriend to urge me into therapy).

Two months in, my mom visited and was flagrantly awful in ways I couldn't emotionally repress. That helped my therapist zero in on the real issue and forced me to recognize it as well.

My pocketbook is poorer but my non-relationship with my mom is much healthier. Oh! And I now am much better able to recognize my unmet needs and meet them before I bend a fork.

I've started only taking my meds one day a week on the weekend. Partner and I both want a cleaner house but I am mess blind when not medicated.

Work, work is varied enough to keep my attention. I don't need my meds for work, just for home. One day a week seems to be enough to make progress towards a more functional home.

My mom: you don't need therapy; all a therapist will do is tell you everything is your mom's fault

(Spoiler: I did and they did and it was)

Yes, I blame my dog for being a messy eater who is resistant to my efforts to get him to use a place mat. He keeps grabbing a mouthful of food, walking over to the carpet, dropping the food, then eating off the carpet.

Happily, our carpets are washable. I just don't wash them every time I feed the dog.

I think seeing it live did make a difference. We didn't know what was going to happen next. When we saw the second plane hit, at first we thought it was a recording of the first plane. It was traumatic.

I don't know if you'd get the same reaction nowadays. Our media environment is much more fractured, I don't know if you'd have the same experience. Even January 6th, it felt like I had a tad more control because I could choose where to get my information from, instead of having the one news channel.

I watched human beings jump out of skyscrapers live, my homeroom class. It had an impact.

And then everything went nuts, the Patriot act got passed, and the whole WMD bullshit, and my whole high school encircled the building and prayed. Nuts.

Curiousity: Could you please explain what was awful about the comment you responded to?

For context, I'm also autistic.

I've taught literal toddlers that my dog needs his alone time when he's in his crate.

A 10 year old should be able to understand that sometimes people just don't want to play/talk. Maybe wear headphones or some other very visible indicator that you're not social right then?

I'm team pour-over coffee maker. It goes in the dishwasher every now and then. All parts are visible, so I know if it looks groddy.

True! Let's encourage them to work towards goals that seem attainable and worthwhile.

Sometimes, just small changes can make a big difference to the individual. I used to take the elevator to my 5th-floor office. Now I take the stairs. The only conscious change to my routine was converting from carrying a bag/purse to carrying a backpack--I carry the same amount of stuff more comfortably, and so the stairs don't seem daunting.

And "fit" doesn't have to mean "able to run a marathon". That might not be achievable for you. Even minor improvements can be big, though. For example, I have lower back pain. It sucks and I do not recommend it.

I've started physical therapy. It's two 30-minute sessions a week, plus 10 minutes of homework stretches every day. My pain is much less than when I started.

I feel much more able to do things like long trips to the grocery store. Before, I'd sometimes have to beg off and lie down in the car and let my partner finish the trip.

Anyways, fitness. It's good. YMMV, PT might not work for you, I am not a doctor.

I feel you there. And, yoo much ADHD medication can be awful--I figured that out while honing in on what my proper dosage is.

My boss noticed a young adult coworker was distractable/off and asked what was up. Coworker volunteered that she'd been unable to pick up her prescription medication (lack of car and a parent that controlled what pharmacy she could use).

Boss offered a ride to the pharmacy and the problem was solved for at least that month. I think coworker was able to migrate the prescription after that.

Anyways, you have to be supportive of n00bs. They're the future.

Arkansas

Probably not (I don't think she's remarried yet), but maybe my aunt is. My aunt and my mom hate each other because they're almost the same person.

Anyways, I'm sorry your stepmom sucks. I hope you're able to get away from that unhealthy relationship.

I've taken the opposite approach. My dog has twice daily meds. So do I. He hates his meds, but I still always remember to give them to him because they are Important to Dog. I take my meds at the same time because I might as well.

My problem is remembering whether I've already drugged him. That's where my special pill bottle comes in--it counts up from the time you close the bottle, so you know if it's been 5 minutes or 8 hours. It's also handy for when more than one person might administer the meds.

TBH, sometimes they do just change the sign. You'll have "all-gender (with urinals)" and "all-gender (no urinals)". I saw that at an older theater in Western Massachusetts.

It probably has to do with budget and clientele. This theater's audience skewed 20ish at the show I was at.

Yes, but it was a slog. My summary:

the weather was dreadful, some high muckety muck is back from Michaelmas break. The scene is in London. All the people and critters in the street are covered in mud. The ground is slippery with mud (and probably horse crap, but we're too polite to mention it). OMG the weather sucks, very wet and dreary. Everyone's in a bad mood. Did I mention it's wet and icky and muddy and the weather is bad?