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  • Yes, yes it is. I've tried to explain to you at length how it's SA even in context (the "why is he making excuses" argument) and how it's harmful even if there was context redeeming it (the "it's visible to people without such context" argument).

    I do not understand why you're so adamant about defending cartoon SA and the harm it can cause.

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  • nah fuck off, these kinds of posts do trigger SA related trauma and keeping them up after it has been pointed out how they cause harm is risking harm to others because ?? don't even know why OP was so adamant about defending this tbh

  • So I get banned from lemmy.ml What now?
  • I'm not an admin of any instance don't know why you think I am.

    You stated multiple times that you wanted to shoot him because he used the excuse that "it's just a game".

    And that was just a comment.

    going on a multiple paragraph rant that is more about dunking on someone and venting than actually trying to inform isn't a good look for an admin.

    I wasn't dunking on him but trying to explain my viewpoints to him. I didn't make fun of him, I wasn't sarcastic or smug, I stated my opinion. Rather plainly and bluntly but there was no dunking involved.

    I can't read their full responses that you deleted, but what you quoted from them reads like the kind of scared "stop yelling at me I don't understand what I did wrong please don't hit me" responses I gave to my mother while she was busy giving me reasons for therapy.

    The quotes are pretty much entirely what was written. Which was SA apologia. My comments are nothing but trying to explain what was wrong. Also I didn't delete anything. I'm neither a mod nor an admin. I am just a normal user.

  • So I get banned from lemmy.ml What now?
  • If you're gonna post about me at least tag me coward.

    Here's the thread for context. https://hexbear.net/post/3706906

    And someone claimed it have SA(Sexual Assualt) From Hexbear Ofcourse.

    Here's my claim boiled down:

    Shane’s reaction betrays he acted without establishing consent, aka committed SA. There is no other reason for him to feel guilty and make excuses other than trying to soften any backlash his action might’ve caused. Even if there was explicit consent along the lines of “hold me tight and kiss me” he is unaware of it and decided to act regardless. Nothing can excuse this. This is textbook SA.

    The framing of the comic makes an act of SA look cute and romantic.

    You have posted a comic romanticizing r*pe.

    When pointed out that this causes harm to real-life people you still tried to defend it and decided to do nothing to mitigate the harm to these people.

    You were unable to say why it was ok to leave a post up despite it being able to cause harm to people with PTSD.

    You kept enganging in disgusting SA apologetics "oh he's just a depressed alcoholic", "oh but she wanted it", "oh but why does she kiss him back"

    I did not ask you to or insinuate that you should kill yourself. Complete lie.

    My bad on not reading the "this game is woke lol" comment as sarcastic.

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  • One more because I want you to really stew on this:

    Shane's reaction betrays he acted without establishing consent, aka committed SA. There is no other reason for him to feel guilty and make excuses other than trying to soften any backlash his action might've caused. Even if there was explicit consent along the lines of "hold me tight and kiss me" he is unaware of it and decided to act regardless. Nothing can excuse this. This is textbook SA.

    The framing of the comic makes an act of SA look cute and romantic.

    You have posted a comic romanticizing r*pe.

    When pointed out that this causes harm to real-life people you still tried to defend it and decided to do nothing to mitigate the harm to these people.

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  • I know it can trigger someone because it have no context.

    This is harmful. A person with PTSD getting triggered is harmful.

    Edit: also again. No consent=SA. No excuses. No "oh but she loves him", "oh he is a sad depressed alcoholic" or the particularly vile, odious, disgusting "oh but she kissed him back". No. Excuses.

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  • I know it can trigger someone because it have no context.

    so you are gonna fix this right? anakin-padme-2

    I am not saying People should touch other without their consent.

    I agree with you No Consent = SA

    so you agree that this is SA right? anakin-padme-2

    You can shoot me for saying it's a game.

    nono I don't want to shoot for pointing that it's a game, I want to shoot you because you're first defense to depictions of SA is "it's just a game". Even if it weren't, your first instinct to such an allegation was "it's just a game" and not even trying to show that consent actually was involved or how a depiction of SA is appropriate for the context we're in.

    Player(You) already have a good relation with him at 8 hearts.

    Good relation ≠ consent to be suddenly and forcibly kissed!

    Also don't blame me for relationship blame concerendape for this.

    I am not blaming you for writing this scene nor drawing it. I am blaming you for posting SA and then defending it. I don't care who wrote it or where the idea originated, you decided to post a depiction of SA in a "cute" framework and then proceeded to defend and downplay it.

    One more why would one even gain 10 heart with Shane if you don't want to marry him in game and be nice with him at first place.

    Do you think that translates to the PC giving consent? If so how?

    I can't view the cutscene right now, or confirm whether they are officially dating after the 8 hearts scene, but you still have not shown or even claimed the presence of consent. So this must be, by the logic you agreed to, SA. And even if there is some context somehow saving this, my point under firstly stands. It's a harmful post. Please remove it and reflect on why you wanted to defend it for so long and why none of your defense included trying to establish consent or arguing why depictions of SA are context-appropriate.

    Edit: also if shane thought consent was involved why the need to make an excuse. Why the guilt? Even if the PC gave consent clearly Shane does not know it. Shane decided to force himself on the PC without establishing consent. This is SA. You posted a comic that depicts SA as a cute and romantic thing.

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  • Oooh glad I switched accounts because I knew someone would show up to defend this. So much worse that you're the OP and mod.

    Firstly: this post appears outside of this community and without any context (no matter how good) this can trigger people who had to endure SV like this. This alone disqualifies this post. I need you to understand that posts like these can absolutely wreck someones day and pose a barrier to the site and lemmy as a whole. So best case: it's ableist to put it up.

    Secondly: the fact that your first line of defense is "it's just a game" makes me want to shoot you. It's just a comment.

    Thirdly: Shane being a depressed alcoholic does not give him a pass to SA people?? And if he's been drinking even though he's an alcoholic all the more reason to step out of the situation. How is pointing out that this is not just a comic about SA but about an alcoholic relapsing and then SA'ing helping your argument? "oh he's been down lately, lets let this one slide"? More r*pe apologia.

    Fourthly: Getting a bouquet of flowers a couple days ago does not constitute consent to suddenly grapple someone tight and forcibly make out with them. Famously in stardew valley you aren't dating until after the ten heart event. There's nothing that could even be remotely interpreted as consent to suddenly be kissed. He has demonstrated on his very first date that he does not care about personal boundaries. Just to be clear you have to make your intent clear before you kiss someone even when you're dating but in a game one could charitably interpret that he made his intent clear with a simple gesture that is already well-established as showing intent but is too subtle to explicitly render.

    Fifthly: Why the guilty conscience? Why the excuse? "oh i just had one too many", either you had consent or you didn't and if you didn't it's SA.

    edit: this man knows he did wrong. Why don't you?

    This comic and especially your defense reeks of incel. Stardew valley's relationship mechanics are known to be very problematic, this scene is one of the reasons why.

    And just to be clear:

    No consent = SA. No excuses.

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