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What's the story of your name?
  • I’m not completely sure why but I wanted to experience my name as something to internalize rather than giving myself full freedom to choose. Probably a combination of knowing I’d be paralyzed with choice and also just feeling that it’s more in line with the cis-normative experience to have a name imposed on you and learn to live in it.

    “Pick the name they were planning to give you if…” didn’t work for me since they gave that one to my younger sister. Female versions of my birth name were just way too close to an identity I don’t want, so that was out too. I wasn’t out to my parents at the time I picked a name, so I also didn’t want to just ask them. In the end, I looked through baby name lists for my birth year and picked something at about the same rank in popularity that seemed like one they might have picked.

    Oddly enough, that landed me on a stereotypically trans name but I feel I can justifiably claim it’s just coincidence :)

    For the middle name, I chose the middle name of my grandmother who I loved and respect deeply - I might have taken her first name as my middle name but it doesn’t flow well with my first, and I had already given it to my daughter anyway.

  • Vaccines don’t cause autism, but the lie won’t die. In fact, it’s getting worse.
  • I’ve got an appointment in a few months. No idea if you’re in the US but, if so, the secret is the same as everything in American health care - money, debt or navigating insane bureaucracy to get insurance to cover it. And, in my case, also traveling a long way to a place that does adult evaluations and scheduling the appointment nearly a year in advance.

  • Pride?
  • Lots of small-ish cities around me, I’ll probably end up going to 2 or 3 separate pride events (last year I made it to 2). This will be my first time fully “out” rather than undercover as an “ally”, so I’m excited!

  • InitialsDiceBearhttps://github.com/dicebear/dicebearhttps://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/„Initials” (https://github.com/dicebear/dicebear) by „DiceBear”, licensed under „CC0 1.0” (https://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/)MO
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