Yea I agree with squid that we should not consider the soup kitchen the place of liberation.
I would say as a guy who has dressed in colorful formal attire when I worked in corporate jobs that you don't get punished. This meme is like when conservatives say "you can't say anything anymore". Obviously you can, and frankly most of the backlash is made up.
Yes, that is another good example. Something cannot be both an apple and an orange, much like you can't wish for something to happen but also don't care whether or not it happens.