Don't know about beehaw but lemmy.world was really getting on my nerves with how slow it was and how often it was down. Lemm.ee has been a much better experience for me.
There had been some downtimes, apparently due to DDoS attacks, but since then everything is fine. Actually I am not a fan of such elitarian approaches, with a hand-picked user base and too strict moderation. I am actually quite happy on Lemmyworld and was curious what would make Beehaw so special. But I’ll keep Lemm.ee in my mind as a possible alternative.
Beehaw is just defedrated from most instances and heavily moderated. So it's a lot of LGBT+ and people who were on other instances and got fed up with tankies.
It has a different moderation style and culture. Best explained in the "rules" of the instance, which is a single "be nice" and some commentary. Admins are strict, but fair, and give you a chance to change your behavior if you accidentally break the rule.
Hehe, the philosophy docs are a honeypot. There is still only a single rule, they just explain why, and what that means. But if you expect a lot of rules, I can see how their size can discourage someone.
They've a added some simplified examples, but maybe the honeypot idea has its own merits... 🤔
It worked on me… 😉 Anyway, I am quite happy here in Lemmyworld and this one also does not defederate that much. It’s possible that Beehaw is the little happy island for the people there, and I wish them to remain happy, but I prefer an instance with less rules and less defederation.