How to get over "wait mode"?
Hi all, I have autism, not ADHD (as far as I know), and I have some big issues when I'm waiting for things to happen. Like, say I have to go out at 5pm. I wake up at 10am, but I can't do anything all day because I'm waiting for the thing at 5pm to happen.
Anyone have similar experience/tips?
I definitely experience this. It's like decision paralysis except with anticipation.
One thing that has helped me is working backwards from the time I know I have to be somewhere. Doing this allows my to game out how much time I actually need to get ready and get there, once I understand that timeline, it makes it way more clear how much time I really have.
It doesn't always work because I still struggle with the time management a little, but it does more often than not relieve some of the anxiety I feel during the lead up.
However, no matter what I do, I always end up arriving to the obligation way earlier than I need to, lol.
ohh this sounds like a good idea, thank you
However, no matter what I do, I always end up arriving to the obligation way earlier than I need to, lol.
Same
No problem! Always eager to share some stuff I’ve learned from my decades of coping without understanding, lol. Now I have the context I needed and it’s still a struggle.
Another thing I will say is if you have a partner and you haven’t already done so, read them in on it. My wife and I have helped each other immensely when it comes to keeping these types of behaviors in check.
Good luck, comrade!
my partner helps me a lot, but we don't spend very much time together (we both happily like being alone most of the time lol) so it doesn't really help for things like this