How would you put into words what gender means to you apart from societal gender roles and expectations?
How would you put into words what gender means to you apart from societal gender roles and expectations?
I know that it has significant meaning to me but I struggle putting it into words to explain it to other people (especially other dya cis people). So like a few years ago I was thinking about if I may be trans femme. I have since realised that no, actually I was just struggling with it for a while because I don't relate to the gender roles and expectations society puts on men. I now identify more strongly with being a man than ever before, and I love being a man in a gender-way. I just absolutely hate being a man in a "what role men have in society"-way.
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Humans are like computers, we have a biological hardware and a biological software. Gender is the software. Sometimes the software does not reflect the hardware. One (very rough) analogy I give for this is to suppose you have a Mac and someone installed Windows 10 on it. Yes, it's true that, on the outside, it's a Mac, but for all intents and purposes, it's a Windows 10 now. And in the long run, it shall be respected.
Nah, I don't subscribe to that analogy because it still implies that there are "male" bodies and "female" bodies when I think every woman's body is by definition a female body and every man's body is by definition a male body.
How does what I say imply that? All I said was that gender and sex were different.
You said:
Sometimes the software does not reflect the hardware.
If gender is the software and the body is the hardware, this is kind of the "born in the wrong body"-stuff many people still use and it implies that there is a kind of hardware/software combination that fits together and a kind of combination that does not.
I see where you're coming from, but there kinda is, as anyone who has experienced gender dysphoria can tell you.
HRT really does alter biological sex in a meaningful way, and I think a lot of people view medical transition as making the body fit the mind better.
Or I was implying what the prefix "trans" implies. You can't be "trans" if there's no "base". I wasn't saying any were "superior".
Humans are very much NOT binary when it comes to hardware. Intersex is a lot more common than people think though often in ways that aren't exactly visible. I know 3 intersex people personally that are all intersex in different ways.
You say that like I was implying that.
You're right. I reread and you didn't state the binary aspect. That was an assumption on my end due to previous times I'd heard a similar argument comparing humans and computers on this topic. I apologize for misreading and misunderstanding your point.
Please find a hobby that has nothing to do with computers.
I just...it bothers me when people insist on describing literally everything as some sort of metaphor to tech. Like...that's not healthy.
You interpreted all that simply from my choice of analogy?
Yeah.