Finally got rid of telegram, congratulations to me
It was a many months transition, and it's finally done
Fun thing, you can actually make a backup of all* your messages, groups, contacts, etc. So before leaving you can have all of your data in case you need that one contact or something
The final red flag was as that allegedly Russian authorities were messing with people's deleted messages. Not for the first time there are news that they could read, modify, delete, see location, and etc. Screw it, this is unsafe, I'm out.
Also, these days telegram is really at the state of a pile of garbage, bloated, buggy, and shady messenger.
For family and friends I have nextcloud, many of them are using it (yes, i'm that one out of a million people who made their friends and family use selfhosted stuff and be happy)
I use Pingvin Share to share one or more files. Have set the max limit for each share to 4 GB. All files will be stored temporary which is awesome privacy-wise.