So I've recently been trying to use the term "2SLGBTQQIA+" over "LGBTQ" as it seems more inclusive, and includes first nation peoples beliefs on sexuality and gender, as well as including and differentiating "queer" from "questioning". It's not perfect (still combines A for ally and A for Asexual) but I think ally could just be included in the "+" portion. Regardless, It seems that people unfamiliar with this term just think I'm being a smart ass or a bigot. When truly I want to know what the limits of what "the community" feel is appropriate. Thank you to anyone who can shed some light on this for me.
Not quite. The LGBT initialism only includes lesbians, gay people, bisexuals, and trans people. It doesn't include asexuals, pansexuals, or intersex people, just off the top of my head. I don't imagine many people will correct you for just using LGBT, but it can be more inclusive.