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Or just call your mom sometimes if you have one and she doesn't suck

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I mean a huge majority of women have been telling men not to talk to them so I'm good
- Lmaooo at your UN in combo with your comment. Not sure if this is just a novelty account, but if you're legitimately having difficulty having positive interactions with women, please talk to someone about it. Women don't want to be sexually harassed, and maybe just avoiding them entirely works best for you, but you can definitely have normal, positive interactions with women if that's something you'd like to work on. Women aren't some crazy "other", they're just people that want to be treated with respect. It might seem like they are over asking for space, but society has had a history of not respecting women's space, so there has been a movement to reclaim it even at a heavy cost. I understand it can seem like a lot from other perspectives, but women, like most people in general, just want to feel safe, respected, and happy. If you can make men feel comfortable around you, you can make women feel comfortable around you. If it's something that causes you distress, I hope you're able to work on that, because having positive relationships with others is imho a positive part of the human experience.
  
  Nah it's just a joke about how a lot of women told all men to stop talking to them and then acted shocked when men stopped talking to them.
  I have a girlfriend and we have a pretty good relationship. I have a lot of female friends and we get along just fine. I just like to poke fun at women when they get all butthurt because a small but very loud percentage of men are jackasses and they try to take it out on all men.
  
  Thanks for responding. Legitimately happy to hear you're in positive relationships with women. Will have to at least mention that the idea from your first comment that there's a large majority of women asking for men to stop talking to them and then here you stating that women are shocked men stopped talking to them is probably not as accurate as some news sites would have you believe. One tweet can be blown up into 100s of different stories across the news, but in reality calling women "butthurt" because men are "jackasses" is really not helping. Men aren't just being jackasses, they're sometimes making being a woman in public unsafe. I'm not gonna even get into actual violence or anything, but I have a comment in my history here talking about how I was nice to a bus driver and when I turned down his advances he no longer stopped at my stop. That isn't being a jackass imho. Maybe him not saying hi back going forward from that day is jackassery. What he did was harmful behavior beyond jackassery and not even because I was rude. Just because I (as a child) turned him (a grown man) down. I stopped being "nice" to bus drivers. Yea, sure, "not all men"/"not all bus drivers" but since I can't tell who's gonna act that way, it's a way to protect myself. Asking men not to talk to them isn't "taking it out on men", it's protecting themselves. I have a wonderful, mostly male, friend group, and though I've never championed men avoiding women, I would definitely feel overall safer if the only change to my days was that random men never started nonessential conversations with me. Really wish men would spend more time poking fun at men for being "jackasses" than at women for being "butthurt". Just my 2 cents.
  
  Really wish men would spend more time poking fun at men for being "jackasses" than at women for being "butthurt".
  I do both.
  
  So, a "huge majority of women have been telling men not to talk to them", but only a "a small but very loud percentage of men are jackasses"?
  What makes you so sure it isn't the other way around? Or it's very loud minorities on both sides?
  
  It very well could be loud minorities on both sides. That's a fair assumption to make.
  I just know that every story I've heard a woman tell about all men being creepy, they ignore every man that wasn't. They could go through an entire day of normal interactions from people of all sexes and then deal with 1 creepy dude and that's all they remember.
  So whenever I hear women complaining about it I poke fun. Because it's not "all men" just like it's not all women complaining about all men.
  
  When I hear someone complain about men I always assume it's about the way men are socialized in our society not about literally all men. It's a way to air out frustrations, not an actual statement. Of course there are exceptions, some do mean it literally, but they are definitely a minority.
  I mean I agree, it's silly to phrase it like that, but I find reactions like this even more silly. Someone is venting their frustration about a specific experience, that fuels a general frustration with the way a significant portion of men behave (which includes heinous crimes that are systemically perpetrated by men against women). And the reaction they get is "Well, actually, it's not all men, you know?". Like, come on. Is that really what's being said here? Isn't that reaction a kind of whataboutism? Instead of talking about what caused this or showing some empathy, you really want to make fun of it and point out the semantics?
  
  Except I've been at the other end where I did absolutely nothing wrong but because I'm a man I'm the perpetrator.
  I've had women tell me to my face that they hate all men. I've been blamed for things women did because I'm a man and therefore must be the problem.
  I've even been accused of rape by a woman I never even physically touched only talked to for 20 minutes. We didn't even talk about anything sexual much less sexually inappropriate.
  The pendulum swings both ways. I don't hate women. I don't hate men. I recognize both sides have bad characteristics. I recognize both sides go through different struggles.
  I'm just tired of being seen as an enemy just for having a penis.
  So I poke fun at it.
  
  Yeah, I don't think that's very helpful, but then again neither is blaming all men 🤷‍♂️
  
  sees woman telling men to talk to women
  makes "joke" about how he won't talk to women because they're too sensitive
  defends joke by saying he always makes fun of women when they ask men to not talk to them
  doesn't see inherent contradiction in 1st line with 3rd line
  You're saying women overgeneralize but you're responding here as though the woman asking to be left alone is in the room with you right now. She's not. It kinda just looks like you're looking for excuses to "poke fun" at women wanting to feel safe. Why'd you bring it up if it has nothing to do with the OP?
  
  Nah she's not in the room with me because she's my ex.
  Unfortunately she used to be in the room with me all the time talking about all this shit.
  Man bad this, man bad that.
  Sexist women exist. And there's a lot of them.
  
  I can have pleasant positive interactions without having to repress sexual thoughts with people I'm not attracted to easily. The problem is I'm bi and poly and I'm attracted to a lot of people and having to actively repress sexual thoughts is unpleasant and uses up constant brain power so I temporarily lose IQ points and some social skills.
  My workplace is full of very attractive women in particular and I get along great with all of them but I also kind of want to die when I'm talking to them because I really don't want try to start a relationship with a co-worker and they're out of my league anyway but my god they're good looking.
  
  Fellow bi here, hi! I don't use that term, but I get it. Not super sure what you're bringing up here though? If you're not making them uncomfortable it's ok to be attracted to them. If talking to them for prolonged periods makes you uncomfortable it's ok to keep it short/professional with them. Am I missing something?

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