I don't understand why people have expectations from a young platform like it's supposed to be the new reddit/facebook all of a sudden. I lived through the digg->reddit move and believe me, it was worse than what we see on lemmy sometimes. Let it grow and it will have a chance. Offer help when you think some communities aren't correctly moderated or when you think you have better ideas. People usually will try to help (not all the time).
Only reason I would browse Reddit was because of the vast amount of information linked and posted to it. Given enough time and engagement from the Internet as a whole Lemmy will be bigger and better than reddit.
We'll get there but it needs everybody's help.
I will say I'm already twice as active on Lemmy than I was on Reddit 🥳
It maybe comes from an all or nothing mentality. I would have tremendous Schadenfreude if Reddit does indeed die, but the culture there changed and I don't really care if all of Reddit migrated here. As long as Lemmy is active enough, I am content.
What's the point of "hurting" reddit if you go back after some time? It's like Stockholm syndrome, when you go back to your rapist.
Anyway, I've seen a lot of great discussions on lemmy and I hope smart people will stay here. I really don't care about how many we are, I care about the quality of the posts and discussions. And yes, I know there's a lot of shit on lemmy too, but I think I'm able to filter that shit: I learned on reddit.