Forgot my bluetooth headphones the other day on a long trip and the 3.5mm jack saved my rear end.
Just needed to stop at a shop briefly for some cheap plug-in buds and I was no longer listening to babies screaming on the journey. As a bonus, it also didn't interfere with me charging my phone
I'd like bluetooth earbuds a lot more if I could find some that aren't "smart." If I put on a beanie, I bump them. If I remove one earbud to converse, I bump it. I've not once intentionally used a gesture-based control on an earbud for anything else other than undoing the situation I've caused by bumping them. Otherwise, I control everything with my phone. If I'm working out, I just select my playlist, mute notifications, and I don't have to touch anything after that. Gesture-based earbuds are not for me.
I really don't think there are dumb bluetooth earbuds, though. At least, I haven't been able to find any.
I have the Samsung Galaxy Buds Plus and their app has an option to disable touches, so that's what I do, because I'm the same as you. I bought them used and have been using them on a daily basis for at least three years and they're still working well. Might be something to look into. I hope you find something that works for you!
I have a pair of cheap Skullcandy's that have physical buttons instead of touch sensors. The buttons are basically impossible to use without smooshing the earbud into your ear trying to click it, but it also means it's really hard to accidentally click them. Probably as close as you can get to dumb Bluetooth earbuds.
I don't even understand why someone would want controls on their earbuds, much less for it to be such a widespread issue, but honestly I'm just going to make sure my next phone has a 3.5mm jack
Could always get one of the beanies that have bluetooth speakers in 'em. It'll solve your problem of bumping your earbuds, (though not through a necessarily "good" option). Or, you could use the wired bluetooth headphones like these.
As another alternative, there's the apple airpods, which, as far as I can tell, have not gestures but some weird-ass pseudo capacitive button that makes a sound when you press them. I did just realize though, that if you have an apple device they'll automatically pause playback when you take a headphone out (I think), so that may not be your cup of tea. However, if you have an Android, this addition won't work unless you have an app like CAPods (which you can turn on or off in the app, so no worries there). There's also the downside of not having access to many features like toggling through the different modes (active noise canceling or whatever other bullshit like that), not being able to natively see the battery of the case or earbuds (though, like with the aforementioned feature, using an app like CAPods you can see it), and some others that I can't recall at the moment.
Sorry about the length of this reply, I was originally just going to mention the bluetooth beanies as a joke, but I have nothing else to do at the moment, so why not share my experiences? Anywho, that's my two cents, this could help, it could be utterly useless, you could already know all of this, you may not even read the wall of text, etc. etc.. Do as you will with this.
You don't happen to know if there's some open-source software for Android that might be similar to CAPods? Tbh I'm probably never going to buy either airpods or the brand-name Samsung ones, but I'd imagine there might be a more universal solution?
Yeah, I don't actually recommend buying airpods unless you got them for free if you're an Android user (that's the only reason I'm using airpods atm).
As to open source, I believe CAPods is, unless you're referring to an open source app for most headphones (which upon second thought you probably are).
As to that question, CAPods, according to their GitHub page, supports a few Beats devices, this app for Galaxy Buds on Windows/Linux devices, and this one for Huawei Freebuds device(s?).
Overall, the closest I could find was GadgetBridge, which has support (partial or full) for a few Samsung devices, one Nothing, a few Sony, and Bose(?), though, I did keep running into internal server errors, so it might be out of date.