Tbh, I don’t see how gender identity can be benign in a world where we still see so much discrimination and hatred against such ideas, but I am glad it was in this persons household. Though even then, I am not sure if it’s truly ever “benign”, it’s part of one’s self actualization and therefore meaningful and impactful for the person experiencing it
I don't think young children are ever prejudiced. It's only when they see their parents getting aggro with "ethnics" that they start thinking about people that look different as enemies.