Actually nobody has ever agreed on the fundamental purpose of Hexbear, and the goal of pipelining libs/dunking is directly in tension with having a cozy hangout space that is welcoming to marginalized comrades
I'm not saying that it should be one or the other, just that the two conflict
The fundamental problem is that the vast majority of people on Lemmy are Ledditors with all the Reddit bullshit that comes with it. They're literally just people addicted to the point of using third-party apps, malding that spez took away their third-party apps, and pathetic enough to continue using a shitty Reddit clone to get their updoots fix instead of going to Instagram or something like a normal person.
I was never in favor of federating and I like it even less now that it's led to marginalized members of this community receiving bigoted harassment through DMs.
Ultimately I'll go along with what the majority of the community here decides, but at the very least we apparently need to do something about DM harassment, either by developing the means to restrict messages to other hexbear users, or at the very least the means to turn it off completely.
I have personally never used DMs and the only DMs I recall ever getting were from the old transphobe spam attacks around the start of the site. If I'm not alone in never using DMs, simply letting users turn off DMs could really help.