add a relevant story you guys share within the last year that reflects that quality of theirs
Gifts:
if they tell you they like something throughout the year, add it to a private note to look at during their bday
something they would love to have or use but wouldn't spend their own money
bonus: relevant to their quality story
Example
Card: Happy birthday! I love how you're always happy, like when we went to the beach and it started raining. Even though we were bummed out, you found a way to make it fun and we had a great time. I hope you receive the same happiness on your birthday that you gave me at the beach.
Gift: The shirt they said they liked at the beach store but didn't buy it for themselves.
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edit: Warning, some people will become upset if they recognize that you follow this/a formula. I haven't figured out a solution to this.
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