I hate my parents

I've been that scary parent before. My own kid was of the mind that "It's always the dad that hates you and disowns you if you come out..." originally. I can't speak for your own parents or situation but in my case the only real question was to try and figgure out if I had the understanding right. Maybe your's are the old "it's a choice" type, I don't know any of you, but feel free to bounce stuff off one who's been the other side if you like.

It's okay to be angry, and to have big feelings. But also, remember that your parents are people. There's two sides to that, everyone has biases and perceptions that they can't see past, but there is also the spiritual and beautiful things that transcend all of that.

Beauty and love surpass all the other stuff. Look for the ways that there can be love between you, even when it also means holding the tension of love and anger together. It can work like that, and sometimes that's just what family is. Also before you know it you'll be on your own and that will give you a whole new perspective on family as you build a new life for yourself.

I remember when I still lived with my parents it was impossible to see past their flaws. But now as an adult on my own, I have a much greater appreciation for how easy it is to be shitty and how hard it is to be good.

At the end of it all, sometimes you just gotta feel your feelings, hoping that at the end of it you'll be a little bigger and a little more expensive, able to hold more of life together and not less.

I am fairly faithful, though more liberal than many in my faith. My kids have come out to me maybe a dozen times in total, and have been disappointed every time because I didn't go crazy on them. Most religious people don't hate LGBTQ, even if they also don't agree with some of it. Most religious parents love their children AND their faith, and are willing to let their kids make their own choices.

Don't let a vocal few and their media response cause you to try to squish your parents into a box. They can love you and not love your choices, but also support you making them. Not everything is black and white. If you have kids, some day your kids will subscribe to ideologies you don't like, too. It's part of parenting. Parents are allowed to be disappointed when their kids reject the things they love.

Just stay true to what you feel is right, try to love your imperfect parents, give it a few years and everything will look much different one way or the other.

Have a solid discussion with them in a neutral setting