I've got a 1080p monitor and a 4k TV in my house and have used my computer plugged into each. The TV is also better for a lot of non-resolution reasons so sometimes I'll want to move it there for those factors but in terms of displaying the 4k visuals, I honestly don't think it makes a difference for me at all. Rendering the image at 4k internally has all sorts of benefits for the graphics but displaying that internally 4k image on the 1080 monitor retains all those benefits so I don't see any point in buying a higher-definition monitor.
But the thing is, I never even wanted 4k on the TV at all. I didn't want it to be smart, either. I just wanted good-looking colors and it became impossible to find a TV that put the effort into what I cared about that didn't come with the other features. So I suspect that when I do ever replace my monitor, it's probably also going to strong-arm me into having a higher resolution that I don't actually want. And I can't help but assume this is a big portion of what's leading to these survey results.
I've been watching and waiting on widescreen to get broader support across the industry, recently I took the plunge and finally got a 3440x1440 and it's been great, haven't had any issues or regrets. I still have a 1080 as a secondary but don't use it for games.
I always thought ultrawide would be nice, but having tried it recently, it wasn't really worth it for gaming. For productivity, sure, but the extra space in my horizontal peripheral vision was only noticeably enjoyable in racing games.
Excited for you! I know a lot of folks are pretty “meh” on VR, but I’ve been using it for at least the past 6-7 years and it just keeps getting better. The magic never wears off. Have some fun with it when you get it, and remember to take breaks!