What ability from people did you wish you had?
What ability from people did you wish you had?
Being able to just simply move on from something as easily.
Not a common ability but some people have photographic memory.
I can't remember shit. Photographic memory would be life changing.
Your wish has been granted! You will now keenly remember old photographs 👍
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As someone with ADHD. My brain remembering things would be a game changer.
Afaik no one has ever been proven to have photographic memory (e.g. being able to remember random dots on an image is used as a test, if memory serves right). So for the most part it is just a nice little character trait for movies and the likes.
I noticed that a lot of people I know are significantly better at remembering some things, in this case numbers, but worse at other parts (e.g. conversations). So oftentimes its also a matter of what exactly you are good and bad at remembering.
Depending on the context, it also comes with experience. Think of games like chess, poker, etc. Experienced players are often able to replay an entire match, which in large part comes from their experience and the context of the many games they’ve played. If you met the same people in their first few matches, that ability would probably have been a lot less developed (if that makes sense).
No scientific backing on these statements, it's just based on my personal experience and impressions.
To do things at the proper time, and not procrastinate.
I truly don't know how some people work if not in a manic state for 10 hrs straight because you have a bunch of stuff due at the same time
I guess I could spread out the work, but sometimes I'm passively thinking of the best way to tackle it and other times it's a task I don't like doing.
Don't compare your blooper reel with other people's highlights.
Also, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie split up about twenty years ago and that relationship is still creating drama
Do you mean Pitt and Jennifer Aniston? The Brangelina split was in 2019.
My favorite Jolie story.
Lauren Ridloff is deaf. She was having problems with her cues in 'The Eternals.' Jolie told the director to use a laser pointer and then clean it up in post-production.
Also, they had to use her own kid in Maleficent because she was scaring all the other children.
Executive functioning.
Went here to say that. Imagine not having an absolute obsession, want to do the thing, but not thinking about it all day. You just... do it. Couldn't be me. I wish I could have little side projects instead of just... comtemplating the idea of doing it for fucking years.
I have ADHD. Anyone telling you it is a super power is either lying or has a drastically different experience with it than I do.
Not a superpower. Thinking all moments of every single day, although exhausting, does make one significantly more experienced with thinking and how their mind works than those who can choose not to think most of the time though if untempered these thoughts are typically nonsense. It's an advantage in many situations to be able to think at light speed while everyone else is panicking, but the burnout that comes from not being able to ever turn it off is pretty nasty. It's different with different advantages and disadvantages. I personally wouldn't change my mind to be different, but I wouldn't recommend a mind like mine to someone who wouldn't be able to handle it since I'm barely able to handle it myself with decades of experience.
That's good for you, but don't act like that's the typical ADHD experience. There is literally no benefit to this for me. It's a disability. There are so so so many neurotypical people who also meet the description of the advantages you're talking about. It's nothing unique to ADHD. And, that's great for you, I'm glad you're able to find what you believe to be a silver lining, but don't say it's some sort of universal advantage of ADHD. My wife has ADHD and definitely doesn't have that aspect.
Sleep instantly and without interruption
What up insomnia gang? Coming to you love from the bed at 6 AM. Too late to fall back asleep, too early to get up.
To get what I want by just being cute. Like little kids or cute girls. Or to be automatically excluded from manual labor/heavy lifting for the same reason.
If you're a healthy boy, the moment you become a teenager is the moment you're just expected to be performing manual labor or other hot, sweaty activities. At least in the US 🤷
Have you considered trying to dress cute or paint your nails?
It'd be ineffective and in fact, decrease the likelihood of obtaining that default assumption of innocence that cuteness provides. It'd be like tying a pink ribbon to the tail of a tiger. The ribbon itself would be cute but the tiger would still be viewed as a dangerous predator.
Might help with getting out of manual labor though 🤔 🤣
I wish I could form intimate relationships.
To be consistent on a physical level.
I play guitar and games like rocket league, things that require excellent physical dexterity, and consistency is a big factor. I struggle to repeat physical actions the same way every time. I practice lots, and I'm reasonably good at both things (imho), but I know I screw up more than most people because I can't repeat things the same way every time.
That’s absolutely normal, especially as people tend to compare their general performance with their peak performance („I managed to play that without errors once, why am I not managing it every time?“).
You can do a number of things to improve your mental consistency within the limits of your current abilities by forming healthy habits around it, if it is very important. E.g. a balanced lifestyle of sorts and a good warmup routine when playing your instrument, but even then you will have off days.
If you want to nail that section consistently, you will have to increase your skill ceiling quite a bit, way beyond „nailing it once“. Usually you don’t notice that progress as much with instruments, because ideally the things you are working on are always challenging you at your current level, but try going back to something you played one or two years ago. You may have to refresh the piece until it sounds good again, but then you will probably be way more consistent about your performance than the first time around.
Rocket league is a completely different skill set, but the concepts apply in the same way. Structuring your life around being in ideal mental and physical condition to perform in a video game is probably a lot less useful for your life, but I’d bet every professional player does it.
Maintain eye contact.
Shit makes me so uncomfortable. Look at me all you want, that's fine. I'm going to look at that plant.
If you want to look at that plant, I'll look at you, but you can't have both.
Unless we both look at the plant. That's fine too.
Out of curiosity, how does it feel for you to look at someone’s nose while they are looking in your eyes?
I wish I could actually listen to what is being said to me for more than 5 minutes. Instead of having my attention drift off and me starting to daydream about something the other said.
The sort of natural looking and sincere charm that someone like Robert Downey Jr. can just turn on and work the whole room at once, not that fake or smarmy shit that has people commenting that it fake after the fact.
I've worked with accounts guys who can do it, I've watched them work close up, but I be damned if I cant just naturally do that.
Having the ability to see images in my mind. Sounds like a cool ability, not sure if it would be a curse though.
Sounds like you have aphantasia. Wish more research was done on it, I only learned about it when I was randomly talking with my friends and one of them said they couldn't imagine an image.
I'm stuck with the ability to imagine complete scenes but not be able to draw what I imagine haha
I totally hate aphantasia.
One time I did mushrooms and thought about an apple and I kinda saw it and was amazed. I've never been able to do it again though
I was in hospital earlier in the year for surgery, they gave me ketamine afterwards....started seeing shit.
It was weird.
Hated it for the dissociative effect; but the seeing shit for a few hours after was strange, but ok.
To light things on fire with my mind.
You know someone who can light a fire with their mind?
Maybe. On a completely unrelated note, can you let me know the next time you'll be in public, preferably not standing within several feet of anyone else and anything flammable?
I wish I could have a baseline functional understanding of human interaction & relationships.
As someone who transitioned from a deeply introverted anxious young adult with a persistent stammer, to a relatively outgoing person who is capable of clear communication, the secret is caring less and forgetting that you exist.
There are steps though to get there:
- Look at a person. De-age them back to when they were a shy or excited or inquisite toddler. That's their base model. Anything built on that is just extra wisdom or fluff or bluster.
- Talk to people like you would an innocent child, just use more grownup words.
- Cheat questions:
- "How was your day today" "what did you get up to" "hows your upcoming week looking"
- Cheat responses:
- "nice!" "well done!" "oh damn"
- Cheat moves:
- Eye contact. Look at people in the eye, then look away when describing something, then look them in the eye again.
- Nodding: Make nodding gestures as they respond to you
- Hands: Gesture with your hands when you describe something.
- Smile: You don't need to smile, but it helps. You can look away when you do it.
- Listening helps but is top-tier and isn't a requirement
- Learn to build connections through topics though. If they're talking about cats, remember your dog.
- Signal it's your turn: I suck at this and wait for gaps, which usually means I forget what I wanted to say, but you can signal in other ways
- Yes: Finger gun and a nod whilst inhaling
- No: Polite laugh and a head shake whilst exhaling
- Random: if someone won't stop, they need to be stopped. Just jump in with your crab story, who cares.
This should hopefully get you along the way to forgetting that you exist in a conversation, and it should become second nature after a while.
I wish it didn't take me so long to understand things that other people seem to get easily.
I would love to be able to say the most ridiculous, warped, ignorant, crazy ass shit, and have everyone else believe me to the point they are willing to fight on my behalf.
Oh wait..
I wish I could bang ass for longer than a minute :/
Try concentrating on your breathing.
People who are very good at instruments. I wish I just knew guitar to be able to shred on demand, but I just could not put in the time and effort to get there myself.
The ability to utilize my passion and drive to do things.
Just absorbing knowledge is starting to be a drag.
Not being anxious about almost everything.
Ability to feel slightly deeper while watching emotional films
i want to be able to make easy fun conversation
I wish I could just live in the present without having to completely fake a personality to hide the fact I don't have one.
Not great at some of the emotional assuagences. Like, it's not enough to be right, you also have to make them feel good. Hell, you don't even have to be right.
Sometimes I feel it's like "hey don't eat that it'll make you sick" -> "fuck you don't tell me what to do" -> they get sick and learn nothing.
Like, we're all emotional. Me, you, everyone. But I feel like some people listen to almost entirely the emotional channel, and I don't really know how to tap into that very effectively.
I thought I had one but I read everyone else's first and after each one thought, yeah that would be good. Thank you for making me fully grasp just how inadequate I am. Just sign me up for any of these.
Just because it looks like people moved on easily doesn't mean they actually moved on easily.