Why did America betray us?

You've done nothing wrong. If the children thing could find any brain space, it was because liberals were "tolerating" trans people. If instead they really felt and understood gender as a social construct and a way to express oneself, and relate to others (or whatever your transfeminist definition of gender is), then there's no way to go "too far" by teaching that to children, or just showing the diversity that develops out of it. "You've gone too far" sounds something that a zookeeper says to a jailed monkey who many smiled to when jailed, but became angry and upset when the monkey wanted to go out through the bars and be treated equally.

My point is: a shallow opinion for support, can become a shallow opinion against, in a short time. Gotta keep fighting.

Trans people are vulnerable, that's it. You did nothing to deserve it.

When I was a kid I remember being at the zoo during feeding time for gorillas. The zoo keeper was chucking sweet potatoes and other things into the pit. Two gorillas were sitting next to each other, a big one and a small one. The big one got hit on the head with a sweet potato and immediately responded with violence onto the smaller gorilla next to him.

Gorillas are smart, there's no way he thought that the small gorilla was responsible for the yam to the head. But he couldn't attack the one throwing potatoes. That other gorilla was vulnerable and accessible. That's all. I think about that a lot.

Also, same gorilla enclosure where Harambe would be killed years later. It's like "come to Cincinnati, see our pit of cruel metaphor!"

I'm not trans, but I am an ally and the reason for all of this is transparent. You're a scapegoat. But you're not alone, so survive and weather the storm.

Stop thinking it's anything you or the community did, for starters. Fascists need an enemy, someone to punch down on and bond their group around shared hatred of those that are different.

That's what's at play here, to be in the crowd you have to hate, and a lot of people want to be in the crowd because of the price of eggs or whatever.

Oppressing minorities then becomes an easy win for their group, with something as dumb as an "official gender policy" being a major day one initiative.

It used to just be gay identifying people in general, but I think too many of their friends and family came out previously, making that a difficult collective to rally around. And other minorities before this. I'm sorry your community have found yourselves as the scapegoats this time around.

You did nothing wrong. This government doesn't work for us. neither Democrats or Republicans. I'm sorry for what you're going through.

I'm also a trans woman, I don't think you should look for anything specific that went wrong. There was always going to be an out-group to blame for all of societies woes. I've been saying since 10/7 that if we're willing to just accept what's happening there (in Palestine) then it's just a matter of time until normalization of dehumanizing people like that blows back in our faces over here.

The last few years have been revelatory. I lost a chunk of my personal friend group after 10/7, it pushed me to instead more actively connect with other trans people in my locality in person. I've circulated memes to the effect prior to the election and because of that experience I wasn't surprised to see liberals jumping right to blaming trans people for their failures after this election.

Mutual aid and solidarity across impacted groups is going to be important in the years ahead. All we can do is be prepared as best we can and look to our allies and whatever community we can build.

The public needs a scapegoat for their problems and the people in charge don't want it to be them. They are doing everything they can to make sure it isn't them and if you are the sacrificial lamb that saves them then so be it. You weren't abandoned, you were chosen.

First of all, in a french eye, the democrats are not really leftists, Sanders would be akin to center left (if I rembember correctly).

Second, I cannot do a lot of stuff for americans but try to get people off of american companies that are swearing servitude to trump (meta and X mainly) and I really fear for all of you and hope you can have a way out (state protection, or fleeing the country (maybe as asile seekers)).

Maybe the solution is that everyone become a transgender man so that you can avoid this shitty rule (they seem to be forgotten by the order (lol))

Edit: small note about why the comment about the US democrats being center left. The main leftist party, the socialist party is also nicknamed the social-traitres (as treason) because each time they are in power, we have aggressive liberalisation of the economy, opposite to their fucking name so for a center left, I would not expect anything better

There will come a time when these people will manufacture a excuse to come after more then the trans community.

The democrats aren't here to save you as is evident by the most recent defense bill, they won't be there to save us later.

We are all on our own, so act accordingly.

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It's the same reason we're targeted in the first place and the same reason we were the first target of the Nazis, back then. When things are in decline, people look for someone to blame, and minorities, who are few in number and already seen negatively, make for the easiest target, even if it the furthest thing from the truth. The alternative is to blame the rich, who have the most power to propagandize and shut down that narrative, but the advantage is that it's actually true, which is enough to give it a fighting chance. But what democrats have been trying to say is not that the rich are the reason people are suffering, but that people are not suffering at all. When those are the only two narratives, people are bound to turn to the one that acknowledges their problem, even if it's full of ridiculous lies, it's a doomed strategy.

As for the democrats turning on us, at the risk of reigniting a debate, it's because of trolley problem logic. If a minority group like Palestinians can be sacrificed for the sake of winning an election, then the same can and will be done for any minority group that becomes seen as an electoral liability. The only way for any minority, but especially one as small as trans people, to really achieve security is through solidarity, an alliance of the vulnerable that treats an offense against one as an offense against all. Right now, there might be cis gays watching the democrats blame trans people and thinking that they'll be safe, but that's not guaranteed at all. Since we've been on opposite sides of the debate, I expect you will still disagree with me, but perhaps you can understand where my side's been coming from.

For many people living in safe states (like myself), their vote will not affect the outcome of the election. However, whatever choice is made there (including staying home) will define your political identity and influence your thoughts and actions. Millions of people just voted with the idea, "It's acceptable to sacrifice a minority group in order to win, because it can prevent a worse outcome," and in doing so, they allowed that idea into their minds and allowed their hearts to become more callous. The only surprising thing is that they'd announce their turning on us so soon, when there's not even an election coming up.

It has been eye opening to say the least, how easily people are whipped up by obvious propaganda, as long as it gives them something to hate.

Even as far away as here in South Africa, I've come across people that have been clearly listening to Jordan Peterson or Joe Rogan or some shit; who want to 'chat' about transgender people.

As if it even concerns them in the first place. And as if being transgender is some sort of fad, and not talking about a miniscule percentage of people who are just trying to live their lives without bothering anybody. Because this 'fad' must be happening in some other town from what I can see. With my eyes. While not listening to self important 'gurus' on the podcast or some shit.

I just want to say that it has nothing to do with being transgender and it could've been any easy to single out group. People like to hate and look down on something different that they don't understand in order to feel superior in some way in their own shitty lives.

But I feel like that's empty and useless to say to someone while they're being actively targeted. Like telling a bullying victim to just suck it up because their bully has a bad home life or some shit.

So really all I can say is that I'm sorry this is happening to you. And that I wish there was a way to offer support other than with just words. Like a new country or island where the people are enlightened and not prejudiced, hateful and easily turned by easy to spot slimeballs.

I'm really sorry you're made to feel responsible for your own oppression, it's disgusting what people are saying now...

I wouldn't listen to Democrats though, they're a corporate owned party beholden to corporate interests and special interest groups. They can't admit why they really lost so they need a scapegoat and poor innocent powerless people are perfect for that. :(

Look into the propaganda of Nazi Germany. Really. There needs to be an enemy within and an enemy without. That is trans folks and brown invaders coming in through the boarder.

I am so sorry.

The Democrats are blaming us for 2024's lossx

Who? Where? When?

The sad truth is that the Democrats were never your friend. They treated your existence as political capital, and betrayed you the second it was inconvenient for them. They are cowards of the highest order who've only ever had the goal of enriching themselves. To some of us, this has been true for awhile, but this was really the election where everyone's taken their mask off.

I would seriously, very strongly urge you to get out of the country while you still can. There is no sugarcoating it; things are going to get bad in the U.S. Even if you aren't subject to government violence, Trump blackshirts just got released back onto the street and have been emboldened by this victory. Hate crimes will rise, just as they rose dramatically during the first Trump term. There will be camps, first used on immigrants but there's no telling when they'll stop. Do whatever it takes to leave. Your survival is more important than any unjust laws.

I can't promise the grass will be that much greener when you leave; fascism is rising across the globe and trans people are an unfortunately easy marginalized community to otherize and attack. At the very least, you might have a chance to stop it taking root somewhere else.

Trump hates trans people the same way Trump is a Christian.

Why?

For money

You owe them nothing get out. I'd like to offer my country and my help but is a small town compared to yours.And I do not know if I have the money or the time to help. But I know communities here that will be willing to help.

hexbear has the largest trans communities on lemmy; i would ask there.