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Who of you want or don't want children? I am just curious because most people that I talk to don't seem to want it. I mean leftist

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/27368980

I am curious if the majority of leftist people don't actually want children haha. There doesn't seem to be any studies about it, but my convos with leftists is that most don't seem to want to have children either for the uncertainty of the future or because they are too expensive or because it wouldn't give them too much time to organize or whatever other reason that I forgot about.
I personally lean on not having children because I have been laid off of several jobs and having someone financially dependent to me scares the shit out of me and would put my stress levels through the roof.

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I don't have a solid yes/no stance personally but at my age I don't think it's going to happen. My conditions for yes are having a reliable partner who wants children. So far I've struggled to find any sort of partner, let alone a reliable one who wants children.
- How old are you if you don’t mind me asking?
  
  37

I don't have kids because I've never especially liked them, and I think it's morally wrong to have kids if you don't like or want them.
- morally wrong?
  
  In my experience, many people who don't like or want kids choose to have them for other reasons: family pressure, trying to improve a romantic relationship, feeling like it's the next step in life, etc. The children born as a result spend the rest of their lives with parents who don't or can't meet their emotional and/or physical needs. To me, that's deeply morally wrong.
  
  Not OP, but absolutely.
  You are bringing a human life into existence a decision they have no say in.

Want them, can't afford them. Not in terms of money, living space (which money would solve), or time (which is required to make money). I already feel like I'm drowning on my own, I don't want to also fail my children.
Plus the world is a shitty place.

I chose to not have children mainly for the environment. My partner just doesn't like the idea of having children. However, I know a lot of leftist people that have/want children.

I have 2 kids and I want them, but their mother kidnapped them and took them to another country, leading to tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees and mont of mental and emotional anguish. I might be able to see them again, hopefully.

People that don't want children usually think of the potential wellbeing of a future human. People that do want children, usually do so for selfish reasons. It makes sense people who think of environment or other people are more lefties.
- I agree, but in a way everything we do is for selfish reasons.
  An avg of 2.1 children can be had per couple and it will not grow the population.
  I say that is OK.
  
  Population growth is not my main concern. If I have to live in a filthy city, work full-time and barely have money to support myself, I don't see why I should consider having a child.

I'm a communist and don't want children, I guess for related reasons insofar as I don't think there's any such thing as a "good parent" and that raising children in an atomised nuclear family structure will inevitably harm them. I know people will continue to have kids regardless, but I don't feel comfortable being responsible for a child's trauma. I also don't think I'd be interested in having children even if we only consider selfish reasons; it sounds like a lot of stress and financial drain.
- Just throwing this out there, the fascists and reactionaries have 0 qualms with having a bunch of kids. Do you want the generation of people who will be running the world when we're old to be entirely raised by fascists and reactionaries? Where will future leftists come from if not from present leftists?
  
  That is not how the world works. I am also not a leftist; I am a communist.

I have adult children. They will probably not have children.
- Why do you think so?
  
  They're happy with each other and the time they spend together. They've said they dont feel the need to procreate and they currently feel like the world is not a place to bring a kid.

I live in a country that according to a study is the nr 1 in outsourcing their children.
Nanny, babysits, daycare, etc... Parents have less and less time to raise them in our performance-work-oriented societies.
Even if they could and have the time, it is also known they only have a minor part of shaping them.
Outside factors combined, school, their friends and worse of all social media have a bigger impact.
And I see those 'parents' all the time, proud of how they're raising a child while both having successful carreers.
These people wake their kids and see them again when they put them to bed.
On top of that I glanced over an article recently (since I have no kids) about those children that get little attention from their parents.
A lot of mental problems later and even a substantial rise in percentage of psychopats.
- Are you from Japan?
  
  This is the first country that comes to me head
  
  Belgium

Bringing more people into this world where they will suffer is certainly unethical, but at the same time I do understand the argument that parental beliefs have one of the highest impacts of determining child beliefs, so leftists having children could increase the influence of leftism in the world. Right now, I'm not mature enough to be a good parent, but if I ever am, I might adopt.

I am very much a leftist (anarchist, to be specific). I have 2 kids and I absolutely LOVE being a dad. It's the single most fulfilling and enjoyable thing I've done in my entire life.
If you don't want kids, that's perfectly fine. Kids need a loving an nurturing home, and if someone is unwilling to provide that, they shouldn't have kids just to have them. But I also don't think there's anything wrong with having kids if you want them.
From an ideologically leftist perspective (which absolutely should NOT be the determining factor in having kids), remember how much focus the fascists put on family and kids. They are having plenty of kids who will be raised with their fascist ideology. Do you really want the generation who will be running the world when we're old to be entirely raised by fascists?
I didn't have kids because of my politics, but I'm happy to know that at least 2 future adults will be raised by me with my values.
most don’t seem to want to have children either for the uncertainty of the future or because they are too expensive or because it wouldn’t give them too much time to organize or whatever
I'd just say that every single one of these factors has been in play for virtually all of history and yet people still had kids and were able to do great things. John Brown had like 20 kids, but that didn't stop him from fighting slavery. Nestor Makhno had a daughter. Our world is nowhere near as dire as the one Makhno lived in, and he built an entire anarchist society. What do you think the birth rate in places like Rojava is?
These aren't very good reasons to not have kids, they're just justifications people pull out when they feel like saying "I just don't want kids" isn't good enough. It is. if you don't want kids, that's fine. Don't try to make up some reason why others who do shouldn't.

My partner and I struggled with whether it was moral to have kids considering the future that we're facing. But I guess emotion won out over logic. I wouldn't judge anyone for not having kids, but I love mine more than I thought I could love anyone or anything.

I want children. I know the world is shit right now but we need more of the better people to fix it.
If the left stop breeding, but the right do, then they'll just overtake us.
- Replacement theory based on politcal views? That's a hot take.
  
  No, I just want children in general. But I don't get why people say they don't want children because the world is shit. Have kids and teach them to be better. The world can be improved.

I've known since I was like 13 that I would never be stable enough in life to feel good about having children. Not even because I knew I would be too tired from working so much to devote myself to a child. Also, just the financial strain of another human would never ever be feasible.
Also the fact that children have no rights and can just be permanently fucked up by their parents feels like choosing to rip a person away from Africa at tge height of slavery. Just my personal opinion.

I'm a leftist and I would like to have children, but can't. I'm intersex and the "plumbing" simply doesn't work.

I think most people that don't want kids might change their opinion if their material or romantic circumstances improve?

Wanted, tried, couldn't. Adoption process seemed too intimidating. Making the best of it.

I am 22 and at the moment I don't mind having 1 in a fewer years, but definitely not gonna be in the next 4 years, since I feel the world gonna change a lot.
- 35 year old here. The world is not going to change that much.
  
  I hope you're right

I am opposed to human reproduction.

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