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Is it better to leave a country, or stay behind to fight for it? And what about the ethics of fleeing instead of staying behind?

I mean, there are two side of the argument.

Pragmatically, fleeing would save your life.

But ethically, it feels cowardly. (I'm not calling anyone a "coward", its just how I internally feel about such an act, if I were the one doing it)

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  • For me it's a mix of different factors. Is there a place where I am better equipped to fight for what I believe in? Where I can be more effective in creating the world I want to live in? Maybe even a place from which I can more actively advocate and fight for the future I want for the place I just left?

    I come from a family of refugees, immigrants and political prisoners. My dad fled his country with his family in the 70s, my mum's parents did the same in the 50s. Others didn't leave their homes, some survived, others did not. Every single one of my 19 cousins can call at least two countries their home.

    I just left the US 5 weeks ago. I was a trans immigrant with a disabled, trans wife and an EU passport. Yes, part of me wants to fight the continuous fascist power grab happening right now in the US, which has become my home, but I'd be in a very precarious situation where just keeping myself safe enough to fight another day would occupy a lot of my capacities. Getting myself arrested and (best case) deported, wouldn't really be helpful. Returning to my country of origin allows me to fight the same trends and politics from a significantly more secure position. It allows me to financially support US organizations I believe in, in ways I couldn't while living there myself. And it's not like the same people aren't trying to achieve the same goals with varying success all across Europe.

    But when we moved back here, I also decided that this would be it. This is where I am taking my stand and where I will fight for my future with all means necessary. Be that against internal threats or external ones. Not because this place or it's people is somehow more important to me based on the coincidence of my birth, but because there is no place where I personally have more resources, better support and a stronger starting position. Moving somewhere else to avoid the conflict would leave me with fewer resources and less ability to stand up for my beliefs.

    I don't think there is anything cowardly about fleeing your country when you're not safe there. Being an immigrant, let alone a refugee is really fucking hard sometimes. Leaving your home and everything and everyone you've ever known behind, especially if you do so without knowing if you'll ever be able to return, can be incredibly traumatic. Starting over in a new place, even under the best circumstances, is scary, exhausting and often deeply isolating. We all have different priorities, strengths, weaknesses, needs and capacities and only you can decide based on those, what the right move is for you. Don't let someone who hasn't risked their life while staying tell you you are a coward for leaving or someone who hasn't ever left their home tell you you're stupid for staying.

  • I'm just so grateful that so many great scientists fled nazi germany. Also that those who stayed behind (this is controversial and not known for sure) hindered and delayed Germany's nuclear weapons program.

  • While you are staying, your productivity is fueling the economy, and the taxes you pay go to the government you dislike. If you flee, that's a big economic difference you're making over the years. I guess if you fight symbolically but non-pragmatically and get arrested, they have to feed you and house you in a prison which will cost a little extra, but compared to your non-productivity that's just a small bonus. Fleeing also means you get to proactively contribute to competitors and reward them for being a better place to live, which in a way doubles your economic impact. There's a reason the Berlin wall was built and North Korea executes 3 generations of the families of defectors. People are valuable, and they can't afford to lose too many of them.

    On the other hand, if your threshold for fleeing is too low, there are no competitors to support, because every country has their issues, and some may be at a risk of the same developments as the country you're fleeing from, making it a pointless exercise. And your loved ones could be essentially hostages that can be used to make you stay.

    So it kind of depends, but at least the cowardice argument seems pointless to me. Pragmatic small-scale effectiveness tends to beat symbolic perfectionism at making an impact.

  • This depends on a lot of factors. If you're part of a targeted demographic due to race, gender, religion, etc., then it might be safer to flee before you draw attention to yourself.

    If you're not a targeted demographic, then it might be best to stick around and stand up for your fellow citizens. But this could also lump you in with the targeted demographic and might eventually lead to your own persecution, so it's a risky choice.

    Either way, I still advocate for standing up to any oppression or persecution going on in your home country. No one should ever lose their home to dictators and/or fascists.

    This is actually how a lot of states get divided politically. People see a place as a "red state" or a "blue state" and decide to either avoid them or move away if their political ideology doesn't line up. But that just further entrenches the area into a political leaning. By sticking around and advocating for human rights and better community and respect, you can help prevent the splitting of communities and stop divisive concepts like fascism from forming.

  • I have two multi-racial disabled family members I care for. Even if I could leave the country, they couldn't - very few nations allow the disabled to immigrate.

    I'm here till the fight is done.

  • Whether you decide to fight or flee, I won't judge you. Do what makes sense for you and your loved ones. This is a difficult decision. Don't let Lemmy guilt trip you over it.

    I have a family and kids that need me. I'll support the resistance where I can, but I can't fight on the front lines. I'm lucky I'm not a target of this administration yet, but if we go out and protest, we may become targets.

    In recent years, my family has been getting our passports together and fulfilling requirements to get jobs in another country. If things get violent in my hometown, we can flee across the border. I'll do whatever it takes to keep my family safe.

    If I was alone and no one depended on me, I'd disappear into the resistance. Somewhere, there's a cache of vintage World War II weapons that would love to fight Nazis again. But, I'm honestly not the gun nut type.

  • I'm staying, i'm a white male i'm low on the impact list. But I have citizenship in the UK and I am considering a trip to Scotland to see what the challenge of a relocation entails.

  • It's a very valid question and I think it comes down to an individual's situation and circumstances. Not many can afford to actually leave or have family, friends, other ties to their home that they cannot emotionally afford to leave. Others struggle in how they can support efforts to fight for their rights or simply don't have the physical or emotional reserves to make such a fight. I think the only truly ethically irresponsible answer would be to do the opposite that you are able and willing to do. I could never judge someone for leaving or for staying; it's not really a mark of their character.

  • I have thought about emigrating after I get my bachelor's, but I don't think I will.

    My family has been here for generations. Why should I have to leave when the reactionaries are the ones that suck? Besides, where would I go? Ultimately, nowhere can guarantee safety from the rise of authoritarianism and climate change.

    Canada and Scandinavia will probably weather climate change alright, but they'll have instability on their doorstep, especially if mass migration becomes a thing. Iceland? New Zealand? Switzerland? Probably all decent choices, to be honest.

    I could also become a mountain man out a remote northern wilderness, living as self-sufficiently as possible while working remotely via satellite internet. Or, I could stay where I am and try and do as much good as possible, whatever that looks like.

  • Generally, I feel like it depends on how viable it seems to fix. Is this the same issue that people marched about 50+ years ago?

    Specific elephant in the room, what possible fix within 2-4 decades is there when the right has most of the keys including a stacked supreme court?

    Personally, I can't really fight or leave. I am nowhere close to anything politically relevant... I have no transportation, income, or ID/passport etc. I am a shut-in with untreated health issues. I'm just letting the days go by.

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