will i fit in more with china/japan or russia or their communities in terms of acceptance/blending in?

i am actually half-white, half-asian. i don’t know what community will accept me more, the russian communities online/in the us (since i probably won’t go there) or the east asian (chinese/japanese) ones.

i clearly will not look full white and it may have people say im not “real russian”.

dad is chinese-russian, lived in germany for a bit. (baden-württemberg i think). mom is russian.

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Remember that just because you're from a people does not mean that you have to associate with just those people. The world is wide and diversity is the spice of life. If you will be seeing these people IRL, visit both. See who has better food.

what community will accept me more
When seeking personal acceptance, you depend much more on individual persons than on a culture / country.

Probably a diverse country with a lot of immigration, that's your best bet. A homogenous society without much immigration would be like hell for someone that's mixed-race.
dad is chinese-russian, lived in germany for a bit.
Does he have German citizenship? Can you obtain German citizenship. If so, you can then travel around EU via Schengen Area and live wherever you want within Schengen.

Whatever it is, definitely, 100%, without a doubt, not japan
- I can say from experience being mixed white and Japanese I'll always be a second class citizen there.
  Can't speak for Russia but I knew a woman who once said she envied her mother because she was "pure", pale skin and blonde hair, while she had dark hair and more eastern (Mongolian heritage?) features. That was really painful to hear someone say about themselves and if it's the prevalent attitude I wouldn't assume I'm welcome just by a blood connection.

Not a part of either community but I'd guess russian would be easier, assuming you've actually spent time to immerse yourself in russian culture/language/etc. Then again if you grew up with the general american upbringing and culture you may as well hang out with whoever you want, there's no need to specifically search out a group of people if your life has been american culture up to now.
For what it's worth back in my college days my old roommate was half black half korean. He really, really wanted to blend in with the koreans and other asians at the school but truth is most of the foreign students tended to avoid him. The asians that did hang around with him were the type that wanted to meet and hang out with americans and weren't being picky about culture and whatnot.
- yep, i was born in moscow and speak russian

East Asian people tend to be more racist than Russians; the Rus themselves tend to feel superior to other Russians, but aside from that superiority, they’re likely to not care much about race.
Chinese and Japanese? Very insular.
Of course, if you’re living outside China/Japan/Russia, you’re going to have different interactions with people from there, many of whom will have left because they rejected the culture.

Hi,
I'm hald-european, half-asian. from y expeiebce, blending in is an obvious choice. But I reallized, I'm not really asian, because I have european traits and references, and I'm not really european because I've asean traits and references. You will not be really part of any and both at the same time. You want to belong to a group, that's understandable. But you are in between, or better said you are the bridge between these groups. This is what's defining you. You can be part of each of them, using what you know about one group, and add spice or knowledge from the other. you are more that one group.
My experience, and I had a former superior who also was between 2 cultures : we don't really fit in to one pot. we are our own pot :)
My german side love a nice german beer, but my vietnamese side loves viet coffee. I love Frankfurter, Nürnberger, Müncher sausages in a bread, but I can't help my self with Cha Gio.
Go to group that are accepting you. And if they don't, too bad for them, there are plenty other groups, until you find your balance. And may be it means being in ultiple groups at the same time, and that's really really fine.

Maybe East Asia, appearance-wise, though they will probably be able to tell you're half.

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