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I have been with wife almost thirty years. I wish it had occurred to me to ask this so many times before saying something. So many times.
I agree. Having a natural tendency to want to solve a problem makes us want to fix it immediately but sometimes it's not the answer, when they just want to vent or someone to listen.
Until their shawarma falls apart every day and they never get past the feelings stage....
Time for them to head out to pasture
There's only so many times I'm willing to listen and not want to fix it. After about the 10th or or 50th or 100th time I've heard the same problem and I'm always willing to listen, but if you're not willing to take one inch towards fixing it or solving it or dealing with it or moving past it, then I'm going to try the fucking fix it for you.
I ask my wife and kids if they need someone to help problem solve or just listen. It's been a game changer.
@lgmjon64 @JoMiran and if it's "just listen," just go do something else and active listen because wtf is the fuckin point amirite
Men bitch about things they want fixed. I don't even know what the fuck is the point of bitching about something you *don't* want fixed. If you don't want it fixed why are you spending time and effort bitching about it?
Because their mood needs fixing
“Is this the feeling stage” to me feels like, “are you ready to here solutions or are you going to keep complaining?”.
The idea is sound but the wording needs work.
There's no ordering to the ways it's worded. It doesn't say "ready for solutions yet?" Or "are you still having feelings".