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Don't have friends and my wife is cold as ice. Kinda want to go to sleep and not wake up
Get some help, my friend. I have found the darkness of depression to be a false darkness. Life can be pretty good, we want you to be there for yours.
The hell are you staying with her for? You've got one fucking life. Get yourself away from that toxicity and maybe you'll find life isn't that bad after all.
I agree with the sentiment but it is easier said than done - splitting finances, houses, assets, debts etc is a mahoosive pain in the arse, and may well be perceived as less of an evil than actually putting up with the daily shit.
Ultimately though I do agree, it doesn't change without some fundamental movement - either recover what relationship you have with the wife, or start planning a 12 month strat to get your shit in order and pivot to a more single lifestyle for a while.
Good luck bro/broette. You got this, and we're happy that you're here.
Better to spend a year prepping and live happier than spending a lifetime being miserable.
Just choose a hobby and do that once or twice a week as your time. If she has any issues tell her to fuck off.
She's not mean, she's just indifferent and distant. An emotional wet blanket
What I'm saying its okay for you to do your own things.
You don't need to be around her 24/7 and something that will make you happy and recharged could be good for you both.
It's like the oxygen mask. You got to put yours on first before helping others
On the spectrum? Or the dark triad spectrum? Inb4 you tell me she's a surgeon or one of those insurance mathematicians.
Maybe try therapy? Would you she be up for that and would you? Just thinking out loud. There is usually a reason people are indifferent and distant, and if you guys had a setting you could analyze and talk about it, maybe that would be good?
Damn that's not ok. You deserve friendship and warmth. You might have to work for it, but still
There's still time to make new friends, you just have to discover new places or try to talk with people you never talked much.
I'm kinda in the same boat.