In my experience, labeling a divergence is used medically to help deduce the type and amount of treatment (and how much money you can get for it) , and socially to just have a catch-all, casual way to tell peers about your divergence easy in within a minute instead of a whole convo about it. Folk without any divergence don't need a label for those reasons, so it feels weird to me make one up that further specifies how 'normal' or 'without diagnoses' someone is. Most folk with a neuro-divergent diagnosis also don't list all the diagnoses they don't have, not because they like to be disrespectful but because thats how you use words in a conversation, you try and be a bit concise and efficient while getting your message across. Considering that, it feels pointless to use a word like allistic, pretty much like using the word neuro-typical conditioning, what does that even mean? living life among undiagnosed functional peers? sheesh, how do you tell everyone you're uncomfortable with your diagnosis without telling you're uncomfortable with your diagnosis...
I understand what you are saying, but the entire point is underscoring the fact that we may be different but we’re not abnormal. Therefore I don’t call NTs “normal”.
It may seem like a minor thing to get hung up on, but it’s the essence of disability advocacy. We are normal. We are part of society. We deserve to be included.
I just think that that difference is only really relevant (normal/abnormal differenent/not different) when you are not comfortable with the label, or have extra feelings that somehow everyone that uses this label (autism), that is taken 1:1 from the medical world, uses it with some extra derogatory meaning. Seems more like a low self-esteem issue than a non-inclusive issue. Im happy you tried to engage, I think I understand your point and understand that we are in disagreement.